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*iceprincessx
writes:I know you’re all going to think I’m being childish here, but please hear me out. I’m 18, and very mature for my age. Last year, I met my college lecturer, and we hit it off straight away. There was one point though where I got close to this boy and my teacher started being harsh to me and him. The same week I finished it with the boy and we drifted apart, and my teacher started being nice again. Whenever a boy at my college got close to me or flirted, he would get very moody with me. I got the tag name of teachers pet, because he would let me get off with everything. I would find him staring at me from the other side of the room.He is always complimenting me, for example one day I came in with a different hairstyle and he was saying how lovely it was and touching it. Then someone else had theirs done, and he didn’t bother saying anything to her. He’s always touching/flicking my hair and saying how nice my perfume smells. I have him this year and we have gotten closer. One time something was upsetting me and he told me, they have to go through him to get to me. He’s very protective of me, and at first I thought he saw me as a daughter figure, but now it seems that he wants something more. He knows that I fancy him (well last year) and he made it worse by getting closer.There are so many other things he does, but I’m not going to bore you any longer. We do flirt a lot, especially the whole bickering thing that students have in high school/college. I’m just confused about what this teacher wants. Does this guy have a crush on me, or is he just being a teacher? Thank you for readingUPDATE:So I'm writing the next part of the question as it's been like 4-5weeks now.It's kinda getting a bit crazy now as one of my friends likes me and my teacher isn't that happy about it.He's even warned the boy to back off from me which I think is stupid,as this Is my personal life!even though I've made it clear I dont like my friend back.My teacher gets really jealous when guys approach or I talk about them and starts asking all these questions.Then giving me random compliments saying how pretty I am :/.I still catch him staring at me especially when I'm around with male friends.So what is this strange behaviour?From what I can see he has feelings for me but I need your opinion from the outside.Thank you for reading
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2011): I think he does fancy you, but only in a sexual way(not a good sign). Don't let this get in the way of other guys. You don't want to let a some really special guy slip through your fingers because of this professor guy, however much you think you like him. It's your life and he can't decide who you date or don't date. x
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reader, uncle bob  +, writes (26 March 2011):
 This is clearly one very disturbed individual.DO NOT allow this to continue any longer.Report his behavior to administration immediately,and ask to be reassigned to another teacher. Your very life may depend on it... "SERIOUSLY"I take it he is a collage professor, and knows full wellthe collage's policies on teacher/student relationships.Sure, you might bear some responsibility in not setting him straight in the beginning, but he's supposed to be the adult and authority figure here, and should know better. He clearly does not.He has broken the code of professional ethics, and should be fired by the collage.He has no right to say anything about who you associate with or to pass judgement on any of your friends, much less touch you!I would like to go on, but I find I'm becoming infuriated by his behavior.What's next, "If you want an "A" in my class, you'll have to earn it in my bed"?Do the right thing, REPORT HIM NOW!Save yourself and any future, more vulnerable girls, he sets his sights on.
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reader, Yetilicious  +, writes (25 March 2011):
 How old is this guy? Is he married? In America, having a relationship like that with a student would definitely get you fired, i'm not sure about over there. but to me it sounds like he's attracted, however I'm not sure if it's just in a lustful, sexual way or if there's more to it. Maybe you should ask him why he does some of the crap he does....maybe he will actually tell you how he feels.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2011): You're teacher may well have feelings for you, as you for him, but if either of you act on them he could get into a LOT of trouble.I know it's hard to turn off your feelings, but try to move on, and get closer to the guys your own age. Also, you should tell your teacher to back off a bit, as it's becoming quite obvious by his actions
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