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writes:I am a college student and i have been best friends with this catholic girl for 2 years.Our frienship was very close but had no sexual element whatsoever.It was just a boy-girl being really good friends.It would be odd for even a day to go by without us talking.We loved eachother as friends.I am a good,decent guy and i am non-catholic.I am a trustable guy and girls have always been very open with me.I respect her belief but do not believe in the same things.And this has always been allright with us.We are very different people and this is undeniable.The thing is that a few months back she said that we have to take a step back,coz she was not sure where our relationship was heading,this came totally out of the blue to me.she told me this after we came back from vacation and this crushed me.She was scared that our relationship would become of a romantic nature.I sat down with her and explained that our relationship will remain platonic,unless it was not meant to be that way.This sorted out the problem and things were lovely.But then a few days back the same issue sprouted up.She said i was a very affectionate guy and she may be falling in love with me.This scared her coz her parents would be disapproving of her getting into a relationship at this stage in life.We are both just 19.She just wants to be with one guy who she would ultimately marry.And i am not him because i dont share her deep rooted christian beliefs.So what is she scared of??????She wants us to distance ourselves from eachotherShe says she does not want me to be there for her like i always have been and that i can no longer have those deeply personal and gratifying talks with her anymore.I just want to save my frienship,it was a deeply satisfying friendship,very rare to come by and i dont want to lose it.What is eating her up from inside.Can things never be remedied.Man it hurts so much.Her welfare has been my primary concern.It was a pure frienship and i never thought ill of her even once.I had no vested interest in her and have treated her with respect and dignity.I dont want things to end this way,but her mind is maid.She says something like she has to resist temptation or something.I love this girl with my heart and my soul.I dont want to lose my best friend............She has been something like i guess the sister i never had.When i told her this she said that i might think of her as a sister,but that she was a girl and was not that strong.She just said she ll pray for me always.....Thats just not good enough man..We are going to see each other everyday.How difficult its going to be to pretend to ignore the history we share and treat eachothe like casual aquaintances.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2009): I believe that she has fallen in love with you an can't bear being just your friend any more. Its may seem crazy to you an a bit pain full however she is going into servial mood it better to protect her heart now. You telling her she is view as your sister might be morethen she can handle I suggest you tell her how you Really feel. I think you are in love as well. Hope this helps
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionShe knows i am always there for her,whenever she can get herself sorted out and feels comfortable,she knows i ll be waiting.I have spoken to her about this so many times,i cant do anything now.Its a real sad thing when you see things withering away and cant do anything about it.
Frankly speaking we could be in a relationship and probably it would be just splendid coz we understand each other so well,but the thing is that we are just friends.I am somebody who just follows his conscience and i know what i feel for her and i know there is no sexual element to it. Maybe there is and i dont know about it...............but that comes later.I just wanna save my friendship now.Its been a couple of weeks since i have spoken to her coz of summer break and its been real hard.I feel emotionally drained and damn it hurts so much.
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