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writes:hello, well met someone last year lasted 3 month ,treated her like an angel. Wrote poems, dancing, open every door,sweet talker, romantic. her ex beat her all the time. it was going great i thought, fantastic. went on a 3 day trip, that weekend she told me when we get back, she has to go to vegas for work for 4 days, she didnt call me, she also was going through treatment for getting beat up by him, after she came back she broke up with me. we never argued, fight , it was all romantic, she couldnt even look in a mirror, he had her believeing she was fat an ugly, but i got her to look in the mirror an see her beauty. am i wrong to think she was with him, not vegas? that was the weekend he got out of jail, it not her fought i fell madly in love , it was my own fault. i should seen all the red flags, 9 months, an i still think about her all the time. an i bet she never thinks about me, i even took her on a picnic, at the bridges of madison county, i wish i could forget her, all the magic wasnt worth all the pain. title a gentleman in pain, for someone who dont even thinks about me
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reader, llifton +, writes (26 March 2013):
 you are certainly not wrong to assume she didn't go to vegas. i'd bet everything in my bank account she went and met up with him after he got out of jail. battered women tend to go back time after time after time. it's like an addiction. it's nothing you did wrong. it sounds like you treated her phenominally. any woman would be lucky to have you. it's just that she wasn't in a place in her life where she was ready for a man like you just yet. she had her own demons she was still fighting and she wasn't over her ex and her abuse.
just take some time and you'll be just fine. i assure you that you'll find another wonderful woman you can treat that way and she will actually appreciate it to its fullest.
good luck.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (26 March 2013):
You're right, I'm sure she doesn't think about you you're too nice and that's obviously not what she wants. Sorry to be blunt but you need to get over it and find someone who you're compatible with. Don't try and save a girl. Just find someone who's already right for you, not a project, and you'll be fine.
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reader, AuntyEm  +, writes (26 March 2013):
 I am so sorry it didn't work out for you...sometimes we do too much for people...I know this as I have done it myself. Its very hard to get someone out of your head when you felt you had a special connection and sometimes it just takes a little extra time.
It is possible that she has gone back to her jail bait husband and there is not rhyme or reason why women return to men who have abused them in the past...they'd say it's love, but I think it's more of a co-dependant habit.
Heart ache really messes with your head and can make you feel miserable, nothing seems to help at first but slowly things get back to some kind of normality.
I don't think you are asking for help...maybe some sympathy and to know you arn't alone in this...well, you arn't alone, this happens to folk everyday and wouldn't it be nice if people were more straight with us, more upfront about how they feel and more honest if they don't think we are the one for them?...seems that a bit of honesty might prevent us from falling apart!!
You did nothing wrong, in fact you were very romantic and most women really need that sort of treatment in their lives...this girl of yours just chose not to stay.
I get your pain, I shy away from such pain these days and don't look for a relationship...for a 48 year old that's a shame but I have had my fill of heartbreak and now just want some peace.
I hope you meet someone else...I think it's a little easier if you are the guy because you can ask...us women still can't get the hang of asking!!
Anyways, don't be sad, well try not to and don't let it change you from being a romatic...because some nice lady will come your way and romance will return again.
Hugs
Em x
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