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writes:This is going to sound weird and I dont know how to put it but me and my sister grew up with only our dad - our mother died when we were young. Our dad abused both of us when we were kids and this made me and my sister very close. When we were older we were too shy to experiment sexually with anyone and it started off with her climbing into my bed at night then one night she kissed me and things started to go further. I could never tell anyone because it would cause a lot of trouble. We never knew what we were doing because our dad didn't send us to school or anything after we reached about 12. We are now 18 and 20 and pretending to friends that we arent sisters but in a gay relationship. We have lived this way since we were 13 and 15. I don't know what to do now because I've gotten a job and I'm meeting new people and our past with abuse seems so far away in the real world. I feel like a normal person now but I can't end it with her because I know she has a lot of problems and needs help - I'm all she's got. Please help.
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reader, ellieharrison  +, writes (24 September 2011):
 This is a bit weird. She's your sister. I know you said she's all you've got but she is your sister. It kind of needs to stop. You never know, you might find someone else equally as special. Just sit her down and say as much as she is special and you love her very much you just can't be together. It is also illegal to have a sexual relationship with your sister. I'm sure you will both find someone special one day. I know you may have lost faith in relationships because of your father but you will find someone one day. And you and your sister can still be good friends. I hope this helps a little.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2008): This is going to be difficult either way. Accept that now and it makes things easier.
How about, you go to the doctors or a psycologist with her, and then eventually she may go off you. Or, alternatively, break it off with her after you've seen the doctor for a bit but support her as a sister?
Things like that would probabli help. It's not going to be the normal quick swift break up let's put it that way.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2008): wow, erm cant u introduce her to ppl girls who r also lesbians.wt about the internet cant u find ppl for her to talk like other girls on there even if she nt seein them maybe she will stop with u.
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