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writes:I'm I crazy?? I have just barely gotten over my second cousin. With whom I did not have a relationship with but liked him for a long time. The feelings were mutual for a time, but some things happened and I stopped visiting the family. This is a cousin on my dad's side. Recently I went to visit my cousins who live in Guadalajara, Mexico. from my mother's side. They are my first cousins, and I hadn't seen them for 10 years. I am now 18. Well I met them and from the first day I became attracted to one of them. He is super tall and has nice eyes. I spent a week there, and I guess I got a little crush.We had some interesting talks and we would stare at each other a lot. And we agreed on the same things, and he would smile every time we talked. I caught him staring at me one time when I was sitting on the kitchen table and we looked at each other and then I looked away fast does it mean anything???. I'm so mad at myself because this is the second cousin that I like, the first didn't go well and now I'm doing the same thing again. And whats worse is I can't stop thinking about it. When I left he gave me two big hugs and I got butterflies. I'm going to see him again in the summer, but I don't know what to do I want to talk to him on facebook but I don't want to bother him. I'm so confused! Should I stop thinking about him if I can??I'm I crazy for liking another cousin???? :wacko:
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2011): Hi I understand how you feel, when I was eleven, almost five years ago, my second cousins from Australia came over (I live in the UK). They both stared at our house for a week.
One of them, the oldest, 14 at the time, was really nice and spoke alot more than his younger brother.
I never talked or met him before, but I use to tease him all the time, not realising I fancied him. But when he was leaving, I couldnt say goodbye, so I just said 'bye' and walked out the door crying. He didnt see me crying, and wish I said bye properly.
A year later, he begun sending me emails and talking to me on facebook. Were still in touch and he is different from the boys where I live.
I think I do love him, but I know he probably wont ever feel the same. My family noticed I was acting strangely too, I know I wont see him again for ages because we cant afford to go to Australia. But when I do, I might tell him how I feel if he is still single.
If I was you I would make the most of your time with your cousin, your lucky to see him every year. You cant tell him you love him, unless he feels the same way.
Think of it like this, the Queen of england married her second Cousin so why cant you love yours? Your not crazy, because if you are, so am I.
I hope this helps, good luck :)
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (14 January 2011):
 No your not crazy but i think you might be confusing the closeness you have with family as some sort of feelings for the person. He is your first cousin and it would cause so much trouble in the family if you went down that path.
I think you need to try and get him out of your head, i wouldnt contact him instead just keep yourself busy and focused on other things. Am sure the crush will pass. Just dont act on it forget about it now before it ends up going to far.
Goodluck.
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