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I'm having a hard time because of the long distance, how can I get him to be more expressive with me?

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Question - (22 October 2009) 1 Answers - (Newest, 22 October 2009)
A female United States age 36-40, anonymous writes:

My boyfriend and I have been with each other for sometime.We are now in a long distance relationship because of employment. We still manage to see each other 3 weekends a month. We still get along great and have great sex when together. We are both in our forties.

He still refers to me and to everyone as his girlfriend when together. The problem is I am having a hard time with the long distance. When I email him I will say how I cant wait to see him next time and be with him sexually again(in other words of course) etc...He will answer other questions on the email but will not respond to these. I have told him i need a little more expression from him esp because of the distance. But he just does not seem to listen or care maybe.I get lonely and miss having someone nearer. When I express myself he just says well make changes or move. The only time he will get flirty/romantic with me is a day or two before we meet up....I am having a hard time with the hot and cold. Even when he does call during the week it's just basic conversation i then feel worse....Confused how to handle this? He's been a player in the past so i wonder if he's starting his old ways again.... Thank you!!!

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A female reader, birdynumnums Canada +, writes (22 October 2009):

birdynumnums agony auntWhen a guy who "used to be a player" does finally call someone their girlfriend and responds to every e-mail that you send by saying "well, you should move out here if you are lonely" - then I think that you HAVE a commitment from a guy who obviously is a "Guy's Guy". He's not a touchy, feely type of man. He says "I love you" by simply being with you. I think that in order to be with this type of guy, you are going to have to change your expectations.

If you want this type of guy to emote, then as him about The L.A. Dodgers...

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