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writes:my boyfriend is always watching porno and more often murstabating.we dont have sex alot and i do like sexi hate what he is doing because he is always hiding and i alwazs know when hes doing itone time i asked him if am not enough for him and all he said was that he loves having sex with methe other time we were staying in the hotel and he waits till i feel sleepz and sazys go to sleep so that he can wacth porno and murstabatesnow i dont feel like having sex with him because i got small breast and hes always wactching big boobs pornoiam frustrated and i cant talk to himwhat should i doHelp.frustrated
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reader, eddie85  +, writes (12 January 2011):
 It definitely sounds like he has an issue with porn.
Most guys use pornography to get "by" when their significant others don't have time or aren't in the mood or if they aren't seeing anyone. Also it helps relax guys.
These days, pornography is just about everywhere and I think a lot of guys have now gotten into the habit. Also, the women guys watch in pornography doesn't necessarily mean that he wants you to be like them. (Most porn also features big breasted women but that doesn't mean he is going to only seek out and be attracted to big breasted women)
If you guys are having regular sex than I think there is a problem here. Also, it is a problem if he is satisfying himself and not having enough stamina for you.
There really isn't an easy answer here. I think you are due for a talk with him. Call him out on it and ask him why he wants to look at porn when he can have the real deal with you. His reaction / explanation will explain the state of your sexual relationship.
The bottom line: If his pre-occupation with porno is bothering you, than it may be a deal breaker in your relationship and it is a legitimate reason for a ending it.
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reader, curls-n-pearls  +, writes (12 January 2011):
 A fair amount of guys watch porn but i do know a few who don't.
The part that worried me a bit was
"the other time we were staying in the hotel and he waits till i feel sleepz and sazys go to sleep so that he can wacth porno and murstabates"
If a guy does watch porn i feel he should never choose it over having sex with his girlfriend. If he uses it porn should be for times when you're not available.
At the end of the day there are going to be many debates on this subject. If you're not happy with it you should tell him. Its not worth hiding and being unhappy. The truth is your boyfriend most likely does love having sex with you. Maybe you would feel more comfortable if you put down some ground rules like:
Never choose porn over having sex.
Dont watch it while im in the same room / house.
Whatever makes you feel more comfortable :)
Its worth having a discussion over, especially if it makes you unhappy.
Hope this helps :)
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (12 January 2011):
 I bet you like big Pe__s porn when he's not loking so what's the big deal?
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