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writes:i am male, thing is i like girls and have had some relationships, but recently my best friend (male), has been looking very attractive to me, but i fear he wont open up, cos i think he is homophobic, i am confused am i gay or what?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2009): You could be bisexual and like both. Some guys are just attracted to other guys and nothing will come from it. If you want to sleep with guys thats another step to wanting to be with a guy, and you could be bi. I wouldn't read into anything yet, your not sure at this time but you'll figure it out. Its took you a long time before you actually liked guys. I've liked guys at a younger age around 8 years old, but I also like girls a little. I consider myself bi-sexual because I like both. If you only liked one sex then you would be gay or straight, sence you like both your bi. You haven't been with a guy yet so I would consider you straight until you actually to that next step tords being with a guy.
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reader, AlphaFX  +, writes (7 March 2009):
 OH NO, your not gay I've cought myself saying a guy looks attractive, every body do it at least once its normal...I feel Iam just comfortable enough with myself to be able to say that to a guy or about a guy...Now I have been told by my friend that she thinks I' am turning gay but I really don't feel that way seeing that I' am not thinking about doing anything sexually with a gay. SO I don't I or you are gay at all...but if the feeling begin to heighten and you feel you want more then what you are feeling now then it not gay but now its bi.
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reader, loving arms +, writes (7 March 2009):
It's difficult to say when you have given such a small about of information. It'd be easier to answer if you had said if you've experienced these feelings before, how long have you felt this way? Do you actually fancy him or just think he's attractive?
You could be bisexual or discovering that you are actually gay. Just remain friends for now, there's nothing to declare as you are not yet sure what these feelings mean.
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reader, Santashelper +, writes (7 March 2009):
 its ok to like girls or guys or both. if you do really like him like that tell him. the worst thing that will happend ishe doesnt like you back. i think you should tell him fyi
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reader, jessica04 +, writes (7 March 2009):
 You're just being curious and sexual. There is nothing wrong with that at all, lots of people satisfy curiosity while they're young to get a better feel of what they like and what they really want.
If he is not the kind of person who would be open to knowing how you have been feeling about him, then I wouldn't bring it up. It might be better to save your friendship that put stress and distance between you two if he misunderstands your attraction.
Maybe go out and take a look at other guys and see if there is something else you fancy. If not, then it could just be that your close friendship with this guy has reached a level where you appreciate him as a human, and not just a beer-buddy.
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