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writes:Dear Cupid, For the last few weeks, I have not been able to show emotion. I seem to be failing in my attempts to get licensed top practice Real Estate, seem to be failing my church, also failing to obtain that which has been missing for nearly 50 years-and that is a first date which could lead to first relationship. Let me be brutally honest. Here is a list of what I can't offer-and afterwards there is a list of what I can.What I can't offer:1. Money-I am on a fixed income and can't seem to find other sources of income for me to live on effectively.2. I do not drive-Due to health reasons.3. I live in a modest home-It is what I can do now.4. I am not attractive as most of the people here seem to think.5. I am not college trained.6. I don't have a career.7. All on my own, I can't even take care of myself. I am on disability.8. This is the most damaging-I can't even hear God!To some out there this is not an indictment on you. I live in Charlotte, NC and it seems to me that this city has a lot of pretentious people here looking only for status and not what is greatly important in life. These people who seem to call me friend know my state in life, and yet not one would consider or one would even consider the notion of having a date with me much less a relationship. I guess I am just tired of hoping. I have all night long, went to personals sites to remove my profile for consideration. I do this with a hard and cold reality that love will never come to me. To those who have entered into relationships, I say-Keep your relationship strong, healthy, peaceful, loving, gentle, free from outsiders, demonstrate public displays of affection whenever you can-to those who disapprove, are the very same people who come between a relationship in that they are jealous and want what you have. The last statement is something i will never do. Other people ask me about other people they may find interesting and would like to hook them up, I say You need to do this by yourself because, Yes I do know about them but I will not make it my business to get into their business. If these people can't handle the relationship, give it to me. Because the one thing I can give is me. and only me! It fascinates me that most of the people here do not want a quality filled relationship. why? I hope all can understand that I am pouring out in verbal form what I cannot emote at this time. To those who have had relationship problems and have solved them, May I say this.God Bless You All!!!What can I doThank you,Myles
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reader, laertes1958 +, writes (20 August 2007):
laertes1958 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your responses. But in the course of typing, I forgot one key piece of information. I am Gay! I am amazed that talking about the gay lifestyle so openly that I could not say anything like this 35 years ago. Again, Thank you for your responses and May God Bless You!Thanks,Myles
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2007): Perhaps I can help. I am college educated, I am attractive in that I have excellent fashion sense, and dress tastefully for my body type and my clothes look expensive, but are not....I am well groomed, and I have self confidence and genuine interest in other people, and give my full attention when someone speaks to me....I show interest in who they are and their experience....I also have acne scars all over my face, which makes me unattractive to many shallow men, therefore, I have never married.
Recently, I met a man at work who is quite attractive, 15 years younger than I am, and seems very self confident, and is a very successful at his current job, he is only high school educated, and likes sales as a career. Over a course of a few months we struck up a friendship and eventually fell for each other and began a romantic relationship....since then I have discovered that he has very little money due to a financial situation that he is in through no fault of his own, he totalled his car due to epilepsy that he did not know he had and has been ordered not to drive for six months, so he adapts, he rides the bus to work, and bought a mountain bike and rides to his appointments, and he took in a roommate to help with his living expenses, even though at 35, he would rather live alone. And he puts in overtime at work, and focuses on making a lot of sales, he is a top producer.
I care about this man deeply, and am not impressesed by material things when it comes to choosing a partner, I have worked hard and have my own money and expect to support myself the rest of my life, I have to, I am not married. I believe that this man will come out on top due to his spirit and his determination, he too lacks some self esteem, though, and as of late has been pushing me away and almost taking me for granted.....and for that he needs a wake up call.....so I have pulled way back and am not giving him easy access anymore to me.....I don't take his calls or am available at the drop of a hat, although if he would commit, I would be there for him.
So, I think you make your own luck most of the time. Check your negativity and your ego at the door when you speak to a woman, show her your loving heart and she will melt if she is a woman deeper than a puddle, and lastly if you do find such a person, cherish her and let her know how you feel about her, don't wear your heart on your sleeve at first, get to know her, care about HER, and let her fall in love....and then don't push her away due to your own insecurity, let love grow......
And as far as being disabled and on a fixed income, don't get addicted to this lifestyle, do some research, speak to a career counselor at your local college, there are many jobs out there for disabled people, and financial aid to further your education, job skills you can aquire....you sound like an intelligent man, don't live below your potential, if you do you have no one else to blame buy YOU
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2007): Hi Love,
I have been brought up by my family going to church, But as I got older I saw god in a more whole way a more loving way, and believe very strongly about love being the whole reason for our being...
I really believe that material things do not make us happy as you said in your question, The things you said you cant offer are the very things you do offer, also inside is what counts in a person..
I had a great job nursing and had to give up I to am on disability allowence, Not having an income can affect our life as a way of taking care of ourselves and our familys if we are lucky enough to have one...As I am...
I didnt stay on to go to college... I dont own my own home... I do have a car which I understand how that can and will affect your independence, just to be able to get out is a luxury that many take for granted...
But the most important thing is you may not hear god at this very sad moment in your life but love he hears you...
You are a very strong soul and so many take for granted the very thing you want the most, I cant tell you how to find that all I no is beauty is from within, And I do hope and pray that, that special person finds you..
Life bombards us with imformation about who we are and who we should be. We listen as little or as much as we will but we must come to terms with ourselves on our own, Our angels will be there beside us.....
I have a little book that helps me when I feel down thats a little part of it...
Dont give up love there are many out there in the same situation as you...I do hope you find happiness GOD BLESS LOVE MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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