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writes:'Pretty women out walking with gorillas down my street' These are the word from a famous pop song. Can someone tell me what women want, i'm confused. I've done all the talking about feelings thing and seem to get blown out for guys that can barely grunt. Help please? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2008): Your problem is you are acting like a girl. Women often say they want you to talk about your feelings, what they are really saying is i want you be like a girlfriend. Often women have a gay manfriend for such chat. Join the gorilla set and become a man again, try it and you won't return to the old you. Women want Men, so behave like one.
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reader, brooke5426 +, writes (2 April 2008):
 you've done "all the talking about feelings thing"? That doesnt sound very genuine and is probably what your problem is. Us girls arent as thick as a lot of you boys like to think. We know when you're being real and when you're telling us what you have heard somewhere that we all want to hear.
Just be you. Boring and cliched but true.
Brooke
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reader, Namatjira +, writes (2 April 2008):
Just keep on being you, the real you and do not try to be something artificial. Yes take an interest and develop good listening skills. Really get involved in various activities other than the pub and club scene.
Most women will get interested in someone who is interesting and has a life. You also need to create opportunities to meet the kind of women you would like. If women who are into a particular sport interest you then at least learn something about it and go to events that involve it. If you like women who are intellectual then go to places where you are more likely to meet them. If you like the idea of someone who cares for others and has a social conscience then get involved with charities.
This world has all sorts of people in it and the secret to finding happiness with someone compatible is to start by being where those compatible people are. Then when you get into conversation, don't take it over. Listen. Say enough to show interest and that you are listening and taking it in. Ask questions that are relevant and listen to the answers. Do not take yourself too seriously. Accept your own failings and allow yourself to be and feel vulnerable. When you go on a date with someone who really interests you, ask her questions about herself and listen to the answers. Let her do most of the talking. Enjoy moments of silence. Act as though she is the centre of the world. Often this will be enough for such a woman to want to spend more time with you and to get to know you better. At no time do you have to be a gorilla.
How do I know this works? Well more than half of my very good friends are women. Many of them are very attractive and all are interesting and intelligent. I get asked out by them as often as I ask them and have often been the "and friend" on an invitation they have received to some event. We have fun, talk about all sorts and can rely on the other as only really good friends can. I am just letting life take its course but I am confident that one of these special lady friends will finish up as my dream girl that I want to spend the rest of my life with. The secret, just be you. Accept your failings and do something about them for your own benefit. The right girl will come along one day. You just have to have your eyes open and be in the sorts of places where you would expect her to be.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2008): Hunny
How can well I take that seriously Come on!!!!!!!It made me pee my pants (:0) Right you just have to keep in there sweetheart the ones that grunt may have lots of money or maybe the women they are with grunt as well so therefore speeking the same launguage and just look good from the outside, Seriously all I want is a kind fella that makes me laugh and I got one :) Just be your gorgeous funny self and you will find the right girl who appreciates a good laugh, Look for the down to earth great looking girls hunny the ones with a good sense of humour and like a pint and a game of pool...TAKE CARE HUNNY LOTS OF LOVE MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (2 April 2008):
 Bad guy syndrome i expect. Lots of women are attracted to them. I am guessing it changes a bit the older we get.
Bad boys are more exciting. Although ive never understood it myself. I have never liked rollercoasters though!
C xxxxx
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