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writes:so i am falling for my teacher. he is 23 and i am 17. we will both be 24 and 18 respectively this year. i dont know what to do. i know it's wrong but i really like him. we have had some deep conversations and we really connect. i just dont know what to do. my feelings are becoming stronger as each day progresses. some advice please as to what i should do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2010): Two choices:
1. You can get over him,
2. You can try to work on an actual relationship with him.
I would go with #2 after you are fully out of school. As you know, you can ruin ...actually no let me put it like this. You both can mess up your reputations. So I would just stay friends with him &secretly love him until the day you graduate. That's my advice because 6 years is not much, TRUST ME.
My situation is that I'm falling for my teacher as well but he is turning 41 soon &i am only 16. So think about what you want. For me..if I had a chance like you DO, I would definitely take it.
*I hope I helped you in some way:)
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2010): yeah, well i wasn't exactly thinking about fucking as the first thing i wanted to do, but i do believe we're old enough. a 6 year difference to me is okay. but i have definitely thought about the career wrecking thing and such. his father is also a principal so i believe it wouldnt look all that great. this is just so difficult. i think i just need to go, i dont know. im extrememly confused. i think time will only tell what will happen.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2010): I have no issues with the age. You are both old enough to make the decision to fuck.
Whilst one of you is a teacher of the other, its a no go zone unless you wish to destroy each other's lives.
Flynn 24
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (21 June 2010):
He's a teacher. You're a student. Take it further and it could wreck his career, even if you've left (it will still look bad for him). Enjoy your crush, but don't think anything will come of it other than trouble.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2010): hmm the first post makes me think a lot. i think i will still have the same feelings even when i move on to college and such, but i dont know. its a difficult decision. i think for now i'm just going to leave it as is, and continue to stay in contact with him after high school and see what happens. but i know the feelings wont go away, so it makes everything soo difficult. like i think of him in the morning when i wake up and before i go to sleep at night. it kind of scares me a bit because i never thought i'd end up in this situation! but thank you guys for your advice. if anyone else has any, feel free to post it! i could use all the different views and opinions.
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reader, QZ +, writes (21 June 2010):
 I think the first thing you need to do is stop and ask yourself are you in love with him, or are you infatuated with him? We all feel unrequited feelings every once in a while, and that's perfectly all right. But you need to realize that as a teacher, it's illegal for him to do anything with you while you're a student (and it's considered to be very unethical). Also ask yourself when you go to college, or off to work, or maybe even into the military after high school, will you still be having these feelings for your teacher? Honestly I think the best thing to do is to go on with your life, appreciate the deep conversations and the knowledge your teacher has given you, and move on. I'll warn you that it'll be hard, but I think it's the best thing to do.
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reader, shanana +, writes (21 June 2010):
You should stay away from him until after you graduate. He could lose his job even if you are of age and a willing participant. Good Luck!
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