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*uperconfused88
writes:I have started dating a guy I really like and things are going really well. He is really into me too and it would seem I have nothing to worry about at all. We have a sexual relationship and things are great in that department too. The problem is that my sister used to be interested in him. She kind of tried to date him a while back, but he wasn't as interested and things just didn't work out. I know that they had sex too, which is a fact I could really have gone without knowing. But now I'm just thinking, how realistic can this relationship possibly be? It's just hard because I can't just turn off my feelings for him (and visa versa), and yet how can it ever really be okay for us to be together? I don't know what to do. Any input is really appreciated. Thanks! Reply to this Question
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reader, superconfused88 +, writes (26 April 2009):
superconfused88 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you guys so much! That is probably the most supportive advice I've ever got. :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2009): im in the some boat as you r lol but if you to really love eachother then go for thats what im doing
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reader, EbonyBlossom  +, writes (26 April 2009):
 I don't see any problem if your boyfriend and your sister are not interested in each other right now. I know my friends aunts and uncles swapped partners on each side of the family and it still worked out for them, so if they managed it in that complicated situation, I'm sure you guys can. If your sister is mature enough not to be jealous and your boyfriend is committed to you then I don't think you have any worries =]
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reader, mint +, writes (26 April 2009):
 i know you dont want to cause any friction between your sister and yourself but if he likes you and you like him then whats stopping you?
just pull your sister aside and have a talk with her 'clear the air' and just carry on with the relationship
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (26 April 2009):
 Keeping it in the family eh?
But what REALLY is the problem? He had sex with other women, you had sex with other men. By change, you happen to know one of his exes really well but does this make a difference?
I would be wary of the fact that he had sex with your sister while not being intrested. Just be careful you two don't have even more in common in the future.
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