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writes:My fiancee and I were having problems and I thought it was the end of our six year relationship, one night I got severley intoxicated and slept with someone else which has resulted in a unwanted pregnancy. I feel like I should tell him but my friends are telling me not to. I have decided to have a abortion and we are getting on really well and I realised how much I love him and never want to be with anyone else I just wish I had realised before I made this mistake! What do I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2008): If it was simply a drunken one night stand, then yes you shouldn't tell him... but - you got pregnant and getting an abortion. This is a huge thing, I don't see how you can keep something like this quiet for the rest of your lives that you're about to spend together. If it comes out at a later time which it is bound to it'll hurt 100 times even more for him.Your better of telling him now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2008): Oh my gosh I would not tell him, This will definitely ruin your relationship.Abortion is not the best thing to have but I mean if you were going to keep it then by all means you would need to let him know but If you two are getting along well now and you know for sure you want to be with him, then work on this relationship.Just make sure this doesn't happen again. Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2008): that is a really tough situation. In my opinion, if you really love your fiance and want to be with him forever, you will feel completely guilty for the rest of your life if you don't tell him. Even if you make yourself forget it, you'll be lying to him and yourself, which is the worst feeling imaginable. My advice would be to tell your fiance that you slept with someone else, but leave out the pregnancy issue. That could ruin everything, as a final blow to him. Get the abortion and don't mention it. Tell him about the affair, and hope he has the room in his heart to forgive you. How do you know that the baby belonged to the random person? If you're not sure then don't assume. Good luck.
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