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writes:help im 12 years old and me n my boyfriend want sexi know people say your too young and wait til your older but i can't wait til im older. we both love each other so much we cant stand being a way from each other. im not scared at all but what happens if i bleed? does it hurt a lot? please help Reply to this Question
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reader, VictoriaJK  +, writes (10 April 2008):
Honestly I don't think you're ready. I know that no one can tell you what to do but if my younger sister was to be asking the same thing...you are not ready. You need to think about everything you're willing to give up and the consequences of having sex. I've seen times when friends have been driven apart, girls have been left pregnant by their boyfriends and losing the respect of everyone around them. If you and your boyfriend really are in love(which at your age is highly unlikely...no offence) then you should respect each other enough to wait. Just wait until you're older, it was the best decision I ever made.
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reader, x-kitycatlok-x +, writes (9 April 2008):
 As long as you are completely sure you want to do this, and you're completely ready then no one can stop you. You know there's always risks of getting pregnant, so make sure you ask to go on the pill and make sure he has a condom. You don't want to get pregnant at such a young age, that's for sure. For some it hurts, for others it doesn't. You can't ask anyone else that question. It all depends on you and how gentle your boyfriend is. It may not hurt. You may just feel a little discomfort. It all depends though. Some it hurts like hell, others not at all. You'll have to wait and see. It'll most likely hurt though.
Wishing you the best.
xxx
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reader, Country Woman +, writes (9 April 2008):
 Sweetheart if you and your bf are set on having sex no one is going to be able to stop you.
However, I don't personally think you are ready at the moment as the fear of the pain/bleeding is what is worrying you.
No it is not something that is out of this world the first time you have sex and yes it may well hurt, you are after all losing your virginity so what do you expect.
Yes you will probably bleed and this may last longer than just that one day OK.
One thing I would say though is please, just make sure you are on the pill first, go to a clinic or something rather than your own doctor and don't trust the bf to get some condoms, use both. You just don't know if your bf has said the same thing to other girls so play safe OK. If you are that keen to lose your virginity do it right and make sure you are safe and taking precautions OK.
Virginity is something sacred to you and once it is gone you can't get it back. Don't let yourself be known as the local bike and don't jump into bed with every boy you know as your bf could well let other boys know that you had sex as they do talk like girls do.
Don't have sex to keep up with your friends either, do it when it truly feels right for you and that you are with someone who is going to treat you right. If you and your bf are both inexperienced it could be an unpleasant situation.
However as I was older when I first had sex I was with someone who had sex before me and knew how to treat me with care and was extremely gentle. An eager boy with raging hormones is not always as caring and gentle so just bear that in mind OK.
Take care sweetheart and remember what I said, be safe and make sure you look after number 1 in all of this as you could be left holding the baby otherwise or have a nasty reminder if your bf has slept with other girls before you.
BFN
Country Woman
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2008): You are not ready for sex if you are asking all these questions.Yes people say you are too young and thats because you are. They are only telling you this for your own good and you should listen and take on board their advice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2008): YES IT DOES HURT.. I AM PREGNANT RIGHT NOW.. BUT I AM 17 TRUST ME.. ITS NOT FUN GETTING PREGNANT.. I KNOW THAT NO MATTER WHAT U WILL DO WHAT U WANT BUT AT LEAST GET ON THE PILL OR USE CONDOMS! TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF
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