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writes:Ok...So im a little confused...I've been seeing a guy who i work with and im very fond of him, we've been seeing eachother for just over 5 months now and things seemed to be going good, just recently i told him that i'd fallen for him and at some point would like to get together with him properly.He started to be quite distant and then one night when we had all been out with work colleages i text him asking when we were going to see each other, he replied sayin that he wants to spend time with me, that he really likes me, but he doesnt feel the same way as me "yet" I took it quite bad...but i'm now confused as to what he wants... Does he mean that its something that will grow with time or was he just using me?I'm feeling really down at the moment and really cant face working with him...what should i do?
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (24 July 2007):
 I wish I could say otherwise, but I'm afraid he was just using you. The minute you want something proper, he keeps his distance. How bad.
You're so confused because you love him, and you wish things were different. And, you're confused because he keeps you so; he doesn't have the decency to at least let you go your own way.
I can imagine how hard this is going to be. But then, what you should do is keep your cool and work as usual. If it's so difficult, perhaps you could find yourself a different job. I have no clue as to how easy or difficult that could be, but I know it's going to hurt a lot to see him every day knowing he just played you. Distance would truly help.
If you can't go anywhere else and need to stay there, maybe you can ask for some days off? And, you need to remember you were a fine person. You loved him, he used you. Shame on him. You shouldn't feel down or ashamed in his presence. Let that be his role.
Hope this helps, dear.
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