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writes:My closest friend, who is a female (I’m male) likes girls, but I really like her. Sometimes I get this vibe that she likes me too and could be bi, and I’ve indirectly asked her and she says “She’ll date whoever she wants to date”. I don’t know what I should do now, and I don’t want to say something and ruin our very close friendship. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2018): Didn't you say this?
"I don’t know what I should do now, and I don’t want to say something and ruin our very close friendship."
Think about it. If you know she prefers girls, why would you risk your friendship? She dates who she wants to date. As long as they are girls!
She hasn't offered you a date. You know your friendship is solid. Let things stay just the way they are.
Girls who like girls, and boys who like boys, get very uncomfortable when straight-people try to make them straight. Just like straight people feel uncomfortable when gay people try to make them gay. Don't test her feelings when you know she loves you as friend.
If she turns you down, your feelings will be hurt; and you will feel awkward and embarrassed.
Stay friends!
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (9 December 2018):
 I think if her attitude is “She’ll date whoever she wants to date” - and NOTHING romantic has happened between you two, then it's not likely that she feels the same way as you.
You have a crush on her. That doesn't mean that SHE will feel the same as you. She might like you, AS A friend.
Personally? I would decide if you want to keep trying to be friends or risk it. Just remember if you DO tell her, that is something you CAN NOT take back and your friendship will NOT be the same.
And if you decide you RATHER be friends you need to let those romantic notions go. Because friendship and romantic feelings/crushes don't mix well at all. Someone will end up getting hurt, most likely you.
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