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writes:please help i cant get a girlfriend despite making lots of effort being a male model. Im a 27yr old virgin and its seriously getting me down with loanliness, i dont know how long i can take this frustration. I know women like me to look at but im so bad with them they just reject me all the time. Please give me some tips on how to get more confident and believe in myself because im sure thats the reason for my alonenes and so many rejectionsPlease help and please dont tell me to just be myself because im shy and low self esteem and i know from experience that women hate that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 May 2008): I know exactly how you feel. I'm 24 and still a virgin. It hurts when I see couples together, especially when it's an ugly/average guy with a decent looking girl. I don't even really want the best looking girl, just someone I'm attracted to. I consider my self good-looking, but not good-looking enough to intimidate most girls, yet the only ones that seem to give any indication they like me are the ones I don't really want. I am constantly doubting myself and my looks everyday.
I doubt my help would be any good for you but this is what I seem to be learning:
*If you want a decent girl, work at a place where there are plenty, like in retail. Even the hottest girls are easily approachable when your a work mate.
*Nightclubs are ego destroying if you have low confidence. Coming home empty handed, seeing average looking guys with hot girls, getting rejected.
I don't know your situation well enough to give out more advice. But I know exactly how you feel. I feel so depressed and have even had suicidal thoughts pop into my head. Even if I go out to a club and end up kissing a girl, I still feel lonely and unhappy, because it never go's further than that. I just want someone to like me for who I am. Good luck, and stick in there.
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reader, ariel +, writes (15 May 2008):
 Agh!! Mac. No wonder you are a nervous wreck, you just have to look on the internet at all this information from people promising you a solution on how to act. For example I typed in ‘How to make conversation?’ and a whole lot of sites came up claiming promises to make you the best conservationist, promising you success. But what works for one does not work for another. I came across this site called videojug, you might be able to get something out of it.http://www.videojug.com/film/how-to-make-the-first-movehttp://www.videojug.com/film/frienditis-how-to-make-yourself-into-boyfriend-material Ha! I found this one in places a bit cheesy.
Then Peter Murphy say’s in his article ‘How to make conversation flow’ that there is a golden rule. Which is: The reason we talk to other people is to connect, on a heart-to-heart level. If a conversation is steered only by your head, there is probably not going to be a flow to it.
Use the golden rule when you enter that room full of strangers. You want to feel noticed and understood. Start by noticing and understanding others
I am a great believer in treating others the way you want to be treated. Maybe you are concentrating so much on not botching up, that it shows in your body language and conversation, like what Peter Murphy says connect with your heart not your head. Maybe its time to go on a date not expecting anything from it, just go on one feeling compassion, interest and care for the lucky girl. Just go out and have a good time, if she doesn’t want a second date then it’s her loss. Change your mind set from I’ m not good enough to I am a worthy person who cares enough to get to know you. Mac you are in control of your thoughts and actions, what you thinking will be the reality of your life. Start reading the news papers, magazines and when those uncomfortable pauses occur, talk about something you’ve read. You said ” I’m too scared of a silence so I tend to keep repeating the same questions and it makes me look really dumb.” Start laughing at yourself, I’ve done that once before and I am sure plenty of people have, I just laughed and said I was nervous, 9/10 times they are just as nervous. When you are out watch people see if you can read there body language, watch how they act. Patients Mac, get to know yourself, what you want. Maybe join a martial arts class or something that will build confidence. Sorry this is so long I hope I have not bored you to tears.
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reader, macmichael +, writes (14 May 2008):
macmichael is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhi areil you sweat dear. thankyou i wownt go to a self help group ever.
im not scared of rejection not at all now.
to be honest im so scared and stressed of fumbeling a conversation up and loosing someone i like so much that i cant listen because im too scared of a silence so i tend to keep repeating the same questions and it makes me look really dum, i am just so terrified of her going away and of feeling so bad.
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reader, macmichael +, writes (14 May 2008):
macmichael is verified as being by the original poster of the questionive gone hrough stages of asking 4 women a day oput even on packed tubes ! im not afraid, its just im not self belif enof but im sick of getting rejected its happened for every single person ive ever asked out i dont wanna just keep getting rejected it just makes me feel even worse and less self belif
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2008): Look man, what you have to do is grow some cojones and wear them! Are you afraid of rejection? Well try this:1.Go to some mall/club(s)r wherever "they" gather, but make sure it is on the other side of town or someplace you won't go to.2.Walk up to a girl regardless if she's in a group.3.Say this: "Hey I have a fear of rejection and want to get over it, can you brutally reject me?"(She will most likely be shocked)4.If she doesn’t bite and refuses convince or prove her with a light tone like this: "Oh c’mon, is that the best you can do, reject me now!"5.She rejects you, this is the way to react: "Nice...thank you! 24 down and 26 more to go!” You may actually tell her the number of rejections if you like. And don't get hurt and mutter anything under your breath, be cool.6.Make a target of 50 or more if necessary.Remember you’re AIMING FOR REJECTION so you have nothing to lose, have fun and be cool. And I can't stress enough; it has to be somewhere you won't ever visit again in the nearer future. Eventuall y you won't care about rejection and you'll be able to be your "true" self around the ladies. Stay cool and have fun.
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reader, ariel +, writes (14 May 2008):
“”I can’t help being nervous and so I can’t say much! I’m nervous so when I try to act confident it comes over terribly......””
What is it that you worry about? Is it rejection? Your fear of rejection will banish you to a life of loneliness. Mac you seriously need to talk to a professional. Stop suffering like this, they studied for many years and can help you. You might be suffering from a personality disorder that can be diagnosed and fixed with a few sessions. There comes a time in a person’s life when self help just won’t help and I think this is one of those times for you. Please stop suffering and get help.
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reader, macmichael +, writes (14 May 2008):
macmichael is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhi ive tried david de angelo was getting emails from him every week about how you have to be confiedent , but being confident it doesnt tell you i cant help being nervous and so i cant say much ! im nervous so when i try to act confident it comes over terrably...... i want more hooker but cant afford them
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reader, WarlockofDarkness  +, writes (14 May 2008):
Hello Macmichael, you wrote: "its not what i dont want to face, its going to a counciller i wownt do it, i would prefare to just buy women rather than talk to a councellor even if i never get a date ever. "Ok, so you choose the easy way, which in life's paradox, will make things complicated later on in your life.You ask for help here, but you are not ready to help yourself!! You are not ready to make the step necessary to cure you from your low self-esteem and lack of confidence..That is called being a Wussy, and even if i don't want to help others that are not really ready to help themselves, there is a man called David DeAngelo that will gladly cure you from this nonsence you are living right now. Just use Google and you will find what he has for you. That is going to be your homework if you really want to cure yourself. I won't give it all to you, you need to work if you want success in everything you do. You might be blessed with good genetics, but you sure don't use it to your advantage! And did you know that some girls are scared of Beautiful men, i sure know that myself.. they categorise ourselves as players, that we can get any girls we want, and that makes them insecure.. see? you are not alone feeling afraid..Plus, you said something like your friends know how to get girls.. hmm.. why haven't you consider to try to mimic their example? Anyway, you talk about your S***ty personality.. i think you have lots to work upon, before you even try to get another date..That was just my 2 cents, and if i hurt your feelings enough so that you can move yourself to become a better man, i will feel my job is done.P.S. By the way, did you know that prostitutes are HUMANS and are sensitive too? Treat them right, not because you are buying them means you can treat them as trash; use them as a way to ask them how they like a man to act, ask them to help you to have a good talk with them, they will give you very good hints about what your mistakes with woman (or yourself) are. Good Luck in life.
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reader, DiovanLestat +, writes (14 May 2008):
 Hey macmicheal, I got a question. Where are you going to pick up girls. Maybe it's the places your going to. For instance, I would never give my number or date a man who had picked me of the street. Dunno why, just to frightened I guess. I mostly meet men in nightclubs or at weddings, funerals and christenings. I also get introduced to men by friends and family who know what I like in a man. Maybe you could show a little honesty about your situation with some of friends who are girls. Maybe they can tell you where your going wrong, or suggest somebody who might be ideal for you.PS: Got no problem with you going to prostitutes to give you the comfort you need. After all these professionals are especially knowledgeable about people in your situation. But I can't help feeling you deserve so much more.
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reader, macmichael +, writes (14 May 2008):
macmichael is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwow someone who doesnt think prossies are evil and more to the point dont think im a complete scum bag for using them ! thankyou, gsmbling with women isnt the problem, its loosing all the time that is.
thankyou
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2008): I think you're probably right Mac.Just bide your time with prossies - like anything else they provide a valuable service!Plus you end up paying one way or the other.(hooker's probably cheaper in the long run lol!)Just take a breather it can take a while to recover from being jilted.Someone always comes along in the end - then you just have to gamble like everyone else.
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reader, Uncle_Phil +, writes (12 May 2008):
 Perhaps the two of you should get together?
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reader, DiovanLestat +, writes (12 May 2008):
Macmichael, I'm quiet shy myself, and have to put on a confident front for other people. Men are quiet suprised when they date me, that in reality I'm a shy, modest bookworm.
Your very wrong about women not liking shy men. I love them, think there very sweet and love finding out their secret hopes and desires that they think no one's interested in. I love men that fumble, and don't know all the moves, it makes me feel that I'm special and (like me) he's taken the time to wait for the right person. I gotta admit, though that good looking men frighten me.
Take care of you!
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reader, macmichael +, writes (12 May 2008):
macmichael is verified as being by the original poster of the questionim not suiciedal just only for a few days after i screw up i hate myself for being inadaquite so much
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reader, Uncle_Phil +, writes (12 May 2008):
I think you're beyond any help that you can get here mate.
Go and talk to the Samaritans if you feel like topping yourself.
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reader, macmichael +, writes (12 May 2008):
macmichael is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIve had enough, genuinly ive had enough of this forever i feel sick to the bone with loanliness, i dont no how to pull and what makes it worse is that women want me looks but i turn them off because my personality is sooooooooooooooooooooo ugily.
Im bitter beyond belife with women because all these unbelievable ugily bully low lifes get loads of them im bitter because child rapists get girls murderes get girl racists bullies get girls and I struggle so badly to even get just a date (3 in 28 years).
I know this doesnt help but how can i respect a sex of people that cause me soooooo much grief and pain and worthlessness ? and NON NO NICENESS EVER ! when i fuck up with a girl that i know likes me i JUST FEEL THE EXACT OPPOSITE OF all the exctacy nice things all the other people have and im just left feeling suicidel, humiliated, self hate beyond belif and more loanly and more trapped than ever.
I dont know what to do i need a girl but people tell me i cant need one but everyone need one its just they get and i dont which makes me more desperate which puts women off more.
More worse is the fact that the more i feel like this the more i cant get a girl which means the more i feel so low which keeps lessoning my chance of a girl.
anyway fuck this im sure someone is jus gonna say dont give in someone will come one day, but they did and they fancied me even more than other women more than any i met but she still went away because was too stumbling on my words.
Im scared now because if i cant even get a girl who realy really liked me then what can i do? and what is the point ?
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reader, macmichael +, writes (12 May 2008):
macmichael is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIve had enough, genuinly ive had enough of this forever i feel sick to the bone with loanliness, i dont no how to pull and what makes it worse is that women want me looks but i turn them off because my personality is sooooooooooooooooooooo ugily.
Im bitter beyond belife with women because all these unbelievable ugily bully low lifes get loads of them im bitter because child rapists get girls murderes get girl racists bullies get girls and I struggle so badly to even get just a date (3 in 28 years).
I know this doesnt help but how can i respect a sex of people that cause me soooooo much grief and pain and worthlessness ? and NON NO NICENESS EVER ! when i fuck up with a girl that i know likes me i JUST FEEL THE EXACT OPPOSITE OF all the exctacy nice things all the other people have and im just left feeling suicidel, humiliated, self hate beyond belif and more loanly and more trapped than ever.
I dont know what to do i need a girl but people tell me i cant need one but everyone need one its just they get and i dont which makes me more desperate which puts women off more.
More worse is the fact that the more i feel like this the more i cant get a girl which means the more i feel so low which keeps lessoning my chance of a girl.
anyway fuck this im sure someone is jus gonna say dont give in someone will come one day, but they did and they fancied me even more than other women more than any i met but she still went away because was too stumbling on my words.
Im scared now because if i cant even get a girl who realy really liked me then what can i do? and what is the point ?
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reader, Andrew83 +, writes (10 May 2008):
 hey Mac..Your not alone dude, but dont give up now.I'm the same as you, a virgin only not so shy now and i'm around 2 years younger than you.I was like you are now very shy, i've had help with it by talkin to people online (it really does help).After talkin to them online, i decided to cam with them (was a very hard thing for me to do) but it really did help.If really want to talk about this more, private msg me.I'l help in anyway i can but its down to you in the end dude.Whats its to be, to sleep with someone who doesnt care about you, how you feel or be with someone who's around all the time, who has feelings for you, who wants you and much more.I keep thinkin of just gettin it over with all the time but whats that provin, nout at all really apart from regret.Talk to your friends, ask them to support you and help you with this prob you have and help you with buildin your confidents up. No one said it would be easy or hard.Believe in yourself mac, thats all you really need and take it one step at a time, you'l get there and maybe when you least expect it to.
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reader, macmichael +, writes (10 May 2008):
macmichael is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthankyou im happy now just buying prostitutes i dont care about anything else jus sleeping and sharing my bed with a girl is enough to make me totally happy, im content now as i know i can marry someone when im old (50+) because old women dont care about confident people....ill just be nice and nice to the children. nd then screw her like i screw the nice hookers. i want 4 hookers ay year for 20 years then ill marryy. thankyou for your help
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reader, Stayc63088  +, writes (10 May 2008):
 Tsk tsk. From the sounds of your last post you are giving up ! You are talking to the wrong girls if you say they don't want love and only care about how you pick them up.
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reader, 147 +, writes (10 May 2008):
 I would recommend this book: Mystery Method-The Venusian Arts Handbook.It's a definite read if you want to understand how to act when confronted by these types of girls.Works very well,you can download the E-Book for free,from a torrent.I'm not giving any links because I'm not sure about this site's rules.Just google it.You have nothing to lose.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2008): Man I know how you feel, it used to happen to me all the time. That beautiful woman at the bus station makes eyes at you, but your just not able to jump over that hurdle and talk to her. Later the feelings of frustration and self defeat at your inability to act draw you down. You get even more frustrated and depressed, its a downward spiral that you have to break.
First you have to realize a few things. One is that the process takes time, your not mr wall flower one day and rico suave the next. Have patience with yourself and keep at it.
Second is learn who to approach and when. As a rule I always let the woman let me know shes interested, this will be usually be a look. When this happens and you notice her looking at you all you have to do is look back and smile a natural smile. Do not glance at her then look away, this is a sign that your not interested. Do make eye contact for a few seconds and smile naturally and act casual. If she smiles back, touches her hair, maybe acts a little nervous, these are good signs.
For a lot of encounters this might be where it ends, and thats just fine. Remember its a learning process. Also, a lot of women might just want a little of your attention, it makes them feel good to know that an attractive man finds them attractive. Shell let you know if she wants you to approach her, usually with a second look. You have to wait for her to give you a signal, be very aware of her body language and dont approach her if your not welcome.
At this point just try to act as natural as possible, being nervous is very normal and acceptable. As she is likely to be nervous also. Be too suave and shell think your a player. At this point remember its not what you say but how you say it. Dont take yourself or the situation too seriously, at this point all your doing is making a friend. So approach it that way, always smile and make eye contact. You will be nervous and the conversation might falter but if you can openly joke about it that will help keep things light. Try to relax and as the conversation progresses things will get easier.
Do not go out looking for women, they can tell somehow. Its not attractive and it will put them off. If you can, flirt with her through looks and body language for a little while before you approach her, but dont wait too long.
A few final things to remember, always end the conversation before it goes sour. You want to leave her wanting more. Smile and make eye contact, be willing to walk away, be polite and complamentary. And finally starting a conversation with a random person isnt an easy thing to do, dont get negative if it doesnt work perfectly all the time. Some days you might not be in the mood, so dont beat yourself up over missed possibilities. Keep at it, be yourself and have fun. And remember there are always more women out there.
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reader, SamuraiRick +, writes (17 January 2008):
 My God, man! You are a classic example to others that looks aren’t everything, and that women love men who are confident.
You say you are yourself, as others say you should be…to be yourself and that doesn’t work…then do the opposite!
Dude…nobody is born out of the womb confident…it takes practice and experience to develop confidence. I can relate to you because I used to be shy and women would misinterpret that as being rude or aloof. I got out of my shyness by action. Doing what you have to do...getting out there and faking it. Yes I said faking it! It’s called acting, if you will. You have to act confident before you can BE confident…somehow your mind will develop confidence skill as you go.
I would develop tricks to get a girls attention. I am American, but I am a perfect mimic with many accents. I can put on a British accent go up to a girl and literally have her think I am James Bond….of course I eventually do let go of the accent and she and I would have a good laugh. But guess what…all of a sudden I have made a connection and made her laugh! How about magic tricks. I’ve done that and gotten women to respond. And not even good magic tricks…just by trying to do something entertaining and even goofing off at it is disarming and women can like you. I could have pack of cards and ask a girl to pick a card, memorize it and put it back….the trick would always end up being a silly endless guessing game after that…but there lies the humor and charm of the situation. The whole point here is trying to make the girl laugh and smile.
So that’s a big part of it…getting her to smile at you. When you have that you are halfway there. The second half is to never let them see you sweat. Never ever short sell yourself. Never tell women that you are bad with meeting women...they could get creeped out about something like that. If they are not attracted to you just accept it and move on…don’t give them ammunition! So keep that to yourself.
You say you ask women out all the time, but always get rejected. Do you even carry out a conversation, or do you just come out and ask? You have to establish a rapport of some kind before you can get a phone number. To just ask any woman no matter how you look, just doesn’t work. You have to click. You have to connect…then you can ask for a number. And by the way getting a number is all you are doing…not asking her out right there on the spot. A number is all you need. After that you call her on the phone the next day or so and ask her out.
As far as asking a woman for a kiss… you do this with simple gestures. Brush your hand to her cheek and compliment her beauty…if she moved her cheek away from you, she is telling you she is not ready. If she stays still and lets you brush your hand softly on her cheek she is ready for you to get closer and kiss. Just slowly move your face to hers and go for it! It’s not always a matter of asking. In fact doing it nonverbally is more romantic.
Now another thing has to be address here. The idea of being rejected all the time. In America we have this game called baseball. And the very best hitters in baseball hit with an average of .300 or more to be real successful. That means 3 out of every 10 times he is getting a hit. That’s only for the very best players. Many major league players can get by with a .200 average and still be playing (for Tampa bay). That’s how it is when asking a girl for their number...you are going to strike out much more than you will make contact... but in order to get a hit you HAVE to play the game. You won’t get hits sitting on the bench. And you know what…even the best of us go through batting slumps. Get over this bad negative attitude.
This is all on you buddy. Get in the game and stop feeling sorry for you self. You’re a model for God’s sake! Act like a man and stop being a pussy! Nobody here is going to solve the shit you’re in except YOU. Be a man, act like man, and stop this crying!
Peace out!
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reader, macmichael +, writes (5 January 2008):
macmichael is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyes but noone can get love from a woman, everyone acts different infront of women especially my friends who are good with them! so i cant see how anyone gets love from a woman? its all based on how good at getting women you are! personality and things just dont come into it! if it did then i would have had lots of girls now because i have lots of friends so must have a good personallity!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2008): Buying women won't get you love it will only get you temporary sex. You sound like a nice guy so I don't believe that sex is all you want ouy of life. If you really take the time to analyse David's wealth of knowledge you will see that he's not all about cheesy pick-up lines and other PUA (Pick up artist) bullshit. He teaches you to have confidence IN YOURSELF and raise your SELF ESTEEM. These things are vital to being happy and fullfilled in your life, that fact that women are also attracted to these qualities is alsmost somwhat of a bonus. Its not about doing it to 'pick up chick' its about doing it for your own wellbeing, and I guarantee the women and relationships will naturally follow. David Wygant IS different, just give it a chance. Buying hookers will never fulfill you the way love can. Check out his blog, its full of people just like us.
Best of luck
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reader, Uncle_Phil +, writes (4 January 2008):
There's nothing quite like answering your own questions!!!
Are you feeling lonely or ignored or something??
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reader, macmichael +, writes (4 January 2008):
macmichael is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey buddy might as well just buy women, if you think about it its no different to learning techniques to get women, they only like you for your techniques or confidence its nothing to do with you at all, so my theory is if i buy them then they only like me for the money but thats no different to only liking me for the confidence i have or the skills i have to get women!!! think about it if you cantt get a girl now and you can with some techniqes then its just as shallow! in fact love is shallow! if it wasnt then people like you and i who are not good with girls would have some because our personality and depth and all that would be taken into conssideration!!!!
think about it! buying women isnt that different! and if you cant afford them just save up like i did for a year its well worth it!
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 January 2008): I know exactly how you feel man. Im 25 and similar story to yours. Believe me when i say anyone that tells you women aren't attracted to confidence and all they want is a nice guy is seriously letting you down. Women ARE attracted to confidence. They want someone funny and nice also, but they also need someone who is going to challenge them and not be a pushover. I have the same feelings on all this as you, but i found a guy on youtube who is really cool and CAN help you. David Wygant is the man you need to see, trust me. He's a dating coach, but before you turn away in disgust, he is different to all the rest. Just visit his website or check out some of his videos on youtube and you will see for yourself. He's helped me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2007): your getting rejected has nothing to do with confidence or self-esteem. Women reject almost all men - you have to realize this and get over it.
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reader, macmichael +, writes (11 December 2007):
macmichael is verified as being by the original poster of the questionits not what i dont want to face, its going to a counciller i wownt do it, i would prefare to just buy women rather than talk to a councellor even if i never get a date ever.
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reader, ariel +, writes (11 December 2007):
Don't be freaked out Mac,there is going to come a time when you are going to have to face what ever it is you don't want to face.
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reader, macmichael +, writes (11 December 2007):
macmichael is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks councelling is a good idea but im not going im too freaked out by it. I would just prefer to buy escorts they are nice and they are good looking and they are easy to pull.
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reader, Annoynomous Gal +, writes (10 December 2007):
Sometimes being alone isnt always bad.
But if u seriously are down go on to a dating service but be careful or ask some of ur girl friends to go 2 the pub and see wot happens maybe they are feeling the same Hope i can help??!
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reader, ariel +, writes (10 December 2007):
Holy crap!! You sound well pissed off. But let me just say that I can only give you generalized advice because I don’t know you from a bar of soap. Maybe I don’t know what you want and I am sorry that you are lonely and can’t find someone. But this says a lot about you; maybe you are looking in the wrong places. Maybe your intentions aren’t what you say they are. Not all women are painted the way you are painting them.
All I know is you need to treat people the way you want to be treated. You keep on mentioning that I must be honest, when I am, what do you want me to say? That you’re a total loser? What are you looking for, a relationship or someone to gain your sexual experience? What I have noticed though is, you seem to have a negative answer to every positive thing I or anyone else has said. Maybe there is more to your confidence issue. I would suggest counseling.
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reader, macmichael +, writes (10 December 2007):
macmichael is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThats just plain wrong, if they werent looking for someone confident then i would have had at least one date by now!! anyway its my problem i honestly dont think you understand how frustrating it is to hear the same advice over and over, besides ive got money and i bought a hoare/hooker/prostitute and it was nice,no longer a vigrin.
Ive given up on womanhood because im not confident and i cant even get some advice saying how to get it, i sure as hell aint trying any more uncerconfident stuff theres literally no point as ive never had anything but no all the time forever literally 28 years so please dont keep banging on about the same underconfident advice about being nice and asking to put your arm round her, i mean seriously thats the type of stuff will drive anyone mad after a while.
Some honest advice would have been nice not just some advice making women out to like these great traits in men. Well i bought those lies for too long now i know it makes women look and feel better but seriously look inside and think, i and others actually believed that asking to kiss someone to put your arm round them will work. Please consider your advice and be honest because people will take it and it will mess them up especially if they are loanly like me.
Seriously though i have given up because i dont know how to be confident and it seems everyone here just wants to tell me girls dont like confidence they like considerate guys, but why the lies??? it just means i cant get a date and you wownt tell me how! and the exact people ou say you dont like you go off with all the time why ? why not just give an honest answer and say how to be like those people, how come you just cant be honest its really important because im really desperate now and i dont know how to solve the problem because you just wanna make women look like these lovely fair nice creatures and its your fantasy thats messing up real lives.
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reader, ariel +, writes (30 November 2007):
How do you know that won't work?You have not tried it,and you are assuming again.Why do you always compare yourself to others? There are no rules in dating.You don't have to act a certain way to get a girl.Women don't want looks or confidence,they just want someone genuine and funny.
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reader, macmichael +, writes (30 November 2007):
macmichael is verified as being by the original poster of the questionask her??? has anyone ever done this to you??? thats a clear sign of underconfidence and women will hate that, actually assuming that a woman likes you is one of the key things to getting women thats why i dont get them. My buddies who do get tho are almost arragant is expecting women to like them. Its sad but true i think alot of women are in denial about this, im confident in m looks yeah but women dont want that theyy want a man who is confident about getting women and if your not then like me you wownt have any girl ever unless you pay for it. Very sad.
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