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writes:help! i am engaged and to be married in the upcoming month...but now i just runied it...i never cheated on my fiancee, never slept with anyone, never hit on anyone, never did anything like thatI just found out that his hotel was changed since he is on business travel and it has a nightclub there so I said "have a great time at the nightclub then" and i was half joking and half insecure....and now he broke evrything off..im totaly devastated :( because i lovehim very much...im not insecure about him cheating but about that he will be in a place where they have prostitutes and so his work buddies may try to buy him some...help...ive been trying to contact him, and he is avoiding me...he sent me an sms saying it's over....someon help
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reader, Basschick  +, writes (11 October 2007):
 Boy, he sure was quick to ditch the upcoming wedding plans over one little comment. Sounds like he was looking for an excuse to call it quits if you ask me. Don't blame yourself. Guilty men usually get extremely, irrationally pissed when they're caught (or almost caught) because they can't think fast enough to lie about something they thought they could get away with. If you feel the need to stay with this guy, you could simply apologize but if he doesn't respond, consider yourself lucky that his weak character showed up now, not after the wedding.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 October 2007): Do guys really buy their friends hookers? That's just... gross! Anyway, you obviously upset him. Apologize and explain why you're feeling insecure. It's normal to feel lonely when your man is away on business... it's important to trust him. He will probably be lonely without you as well, but that doesn't mean he'll get a hooker! Basic trust is important. I wonder if you have a history of making comments like this, or of doubting your mans fidelity and honesty- because it seems unusual for a single comment to end up in him breaking up with you. If it was just one small comment, and he got this upset, I'd start to wonder if maybe he was up to no good and was just nervous that you would find out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 October 2007): I think you may have rumbled him, maybe he was up to no good. If he wasn't he would've laughed it off and told you there was nothing to worry about. I would'nt contact him whatsoever...because the way he responded to you was not right at all, he would have put your feelings first. Now he has made you feel even more insecure, so turn your phone off and whatever you do don't call. Let him do the chasing....if he really does want a relationship with you.
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