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30-35,
*ekkii
writes:I've fancied this guy for a long, long time. It's getting to the time now where I feel utterly deflated when I see him (science and english, lunch and break. Oh, and he's my best friends best friend). We're friends, and it seems as though he likes me, I mean, he flirts with be a lot, but he told his/my friend that he thinks I'm "lovely but I just don't want to go out with her." And I don't want to ask him out, because then he might just say yes to avoid upsetting me and I wouldn't want him to almost go out with me as a chore...Sorry, I'm babbling.In short, my question is:How do I get a guy to fancy me and ask me out?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2007): go to one of his friends and just tell them you really like him and get one of his friend to say hey that girl is cute (tell him/her ur name) and i think you should ask her out and give her a try
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reader, scythe  +, writes (29 December 2007):
 Hey there,
The best thing you can do to get a guy to fancy you is to be yourself. Otherwise he ends up fancying you but finds out you are different when you end up dating. I know it sounds lame, but if you want to attract a serious boyfriend, then you should be yourself because then you know that he loves you for who you are, not what you pretend to be.
However, that said, you should try and not be hostile or bitter towards anyone who doesn't return your affections because this will turn them off even further. And don't try and disguise a crush by acting in the opposite manner - acting bitchy/aloof. I made that mistake in highschool.
Finally, you've already realised that it would be bad if he said yes out of pity. This is true. If he doesn't want to date you then thats that. Im sorry if that sounds harsh, but there is nothing worse than being stuck in a relationship with someone who doesn't want to be there, or being persued by someone you aren't interested in. It may be hard to see this now, but you will understand how this feels when you get unwanted affection/attention from guys.
Atleast he thinks you're lovely :) I supose you should try and be content with that for now, even though its hard. I've been in the exact same situation as you and I know how it feels.
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