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male
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36-40,
*eartbrokenfool
writes:I'm a 21 year old male who's a fool and heartbroken. I met my childs mother in high school. She was the most beautiful thing I've ever seen. We moved out together when we were 18 and have been living together ever since. Last year she did me the honor of giving birth to our first son who is my world. Recently we have fell on some financially hard times and things have gotten really rocky between us. We have always had a problem with other women and other guys in our relationship, and I will admit mostly other women on my behalf. A few months back we had gotten into an argument and I was pushed to the point to where I slapped her, no punching or hitin or slapping repeatedly, just 1 slap. I know, I know, I am not proud of it and every time I think of it I want to jump off a bridge. She stayed with me even after the incident and we tried to make it work, but with the stress of financial things and other guys she was talking to everything went bad. We got into another argument in which she called the cops (I did not hit her, I would never do that again do that again) the cops arrested me because they said that I was being beligerant. I spent a night in jail and when I returned she was gone, which was exactly what I wanted because I was so furious that I went to jail and didn't even do anyting to her. One night she pops up at my house and seen a car there of a girl that she knew late night. She was not there for me, she was there for my roomate but she thought she was there for me so she packed up all her things and her and my son moved to another town. At first we started off trying to make it work and that kind of went sour because I think she was already talking to another guy. It has been about 4 months now since we have been apart. And I really miss her, I’ve tried the crying, the begging, the bargaining, all of the above but she won't budge. Sometimes she kisses me but only when no 1 is around but that's it. She used to call me but now we barely talk, only usually about our son. I really love this girl, everything reminds me of her, I’ve tried seeing other women but no 1 can compare to heart, my heart still loves her, but she acts like she doesn't even have the slightest feelings for me anymore hurts every time I think of someone else making her smile or especially having sex with someone else. I’ve tried also just not speaking to her and that helps but it’s hard to do when we have a young child together. I have matured a lot since we've broken up and I realize that her and my son are all I really want in life. Do you think that there is any hope of me winning her back? And if so, how do I do it? Do I ignore her and make her come to me or do I try to charm her again (she won't ever let me take her out or anything)? And if there isn't any hope. What’s the best way to get over her?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2009): i strongly suggest you write her a heart-felt letter telling her about how you have matured, how her and your son are all you care about in life.
After that, just leave it up to her to come to you.
if she doesnt, you will have to accept it and move on.
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