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writes:im a bit confused at the moment. my boyfriend and i have been together for a year and a half. im 6 months pregnant with his baby. the problem is that we keep on fighting, and its gotten so bad that there is a lot of name calling and blaming each other. We have had to move into different places because of the fighting. for the past few months ive been trying really hard to make things work especially for our unborn daughter, so she can be born in a solid family with both parents but im getting this feeling that its not going to get better. is it time for me to let go? this is a time when i should be enjoying my pregnancy and its suppossed to bring us closer, but im desperatelty unhappy with the situation. sometimes i just feel like running away and never returning. hes harmful words are tearing me into pieces. please help, because it seems like nothing i do is good enough for anyone and i just want to live a peaceful and happy life with him and my future baby girl. slowly but surely im giving up on trying.. Reply to this Question
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reader, Midge  +, writes (22 March 2007):
 I'm so glad things are starting to work for you!
Good luck and keep us informed of your progress!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhi thanx midge, i have relaxed a bit especially since im really spending a lot of time occupied with my unborn baby. we have spoken about things and have decided to take it slow, he has promised that he is not looking at getting into another relationship and that we just need some time out. i have agreed to the break, i keep him informed about our baby, and im letting him know that she needs his daddy. so im taking it a day at a time, and we will see if this seperation will help us sort our differences. i am confident that things will sort themselves out especially when baby is here. afterall we are still inlove with each other. thanx and wish us luck!!
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reader, Midge +, writes (21 March 2007):
This is supposed to be a happy time for you in your pregnancy, you really dont need the stress, its not good for yours and your babies health.
Running away isnt the answer either, but perhaps its time to look at the whole picture. Why are you always arguing? Did it start before the pregnancy or after. If after, its possible that he is stressing about becoming a parent and just confused about what he wants. If before the pregnancy, well I think you have answered the question yourself. It wasnt working before the pregnancy and the chances are there will be more stress afterwards. Bringing up a baby on your own isnt easy.
Perhaps a break is what you need. See how things progress after your daughter is born, and see if you want to try things again. You will know if this is something you want then, but most importantly you need to get away from the stress for both yours and your babies sake!
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