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writes:I'm 35 and just signed my divorce papers to finalize my divorce. We were separated for almost a year and I found myself becoming friends with my neighbors. I was physically attracted to the one girl from the day I met her and she was the same. Since then we've become really close and have been going out to bars quite often. We share a unusual amount of common interests. Its almost like shes a female version of me. She has said shes falling for me hard and honestly I feel the same about her. The only issue I see is the age difference. Her and I dont have a problem with it but some other people do. She's 21 and very mature. Should we be concerned abotu the age gap or not?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2009): No. And if anyone else is, that's their problem. If she's the one, she's the one! Go for it! My advice is to plan your life well, so that hopefully as you grow older you can align your lives better. If you retire at 65, she'll be 51, which should work fine with a bit of planning!
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reader, BehindThese HazelEyes +, writes (13 September 2009):
 no I dont think the age difference matters...im 21 and my bf is 33...12 almost 13 years difference for us....it doesnt matter what society thinks, if you two are happy with each other then thats all that matters...i wish you both the best! go with what makes YOU happy! good luck!
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (12 September 2009):
 Look, there will always be people that think you two should not be together. There will never be any union of two people that doesn't have other people against it for reasons such as age, jealousy, attractiveness, money, etc....
If you want to be with her, and she wants to be with you, and you are both of age of majority, then it is no one's business, and you need to be strong enough to handle the nay-sayers. Did a program on older men dating younger women, and at the heart of it, as long as you both are ready to handle the obstacles, enjoy your life together.
-Frank Kermit
http://www.franktalks.com
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 September 2009): Society-wise the age difference is a bit large, but at 21 this lady you're interested in seems mature enough to take a potential relationship seriously. As long as both you and her understand what you may be getting in to, the age gap shouldn't matter to either of you.
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