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writes: There's this girl whom I work with. I'm kinda sweet on her and I think the feeling may be mutual. She is always way more friendly to me than most. Always laughs at my jokes. Sometimes I detect she's a little nearvous around me in a cute way. She busts my B**ls in a friendly sorta way with practical jokes and stuff. I'd love to know if she really does like me or wether its just my imagination. Does anybody have any suggestions how to find out without directly asking her or getting any friends involved as I can do neither. Not because Im a coward but the company is quite small and i'd be crucified by my workmates. I think when I know for sure I can start eating and sleeping properly again I'm 34... you'd think Id be beyond this...lol
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reader, b3x  +, writes (3 November 2006):
 No way are you too old for that!
My fella was 34 when he asked me out and I could tell he was absolutley shitting himself! (excuse my french)
I was doing what this girl is doing, laughing at his stupid jokes, being ultra flirty and I am glad he got the vibe I liked him! I reckon this girl likes you too, but like me she wants you to ask her out!
Your really hung up on this girl, if she's stopping you from eating and sleeping then why would you be bothered if your workmates crucify you? Not eating and sleeping is a bigger issue than getting a few snide remarks (which mates always do!)
She's playing hard to get, so just ask her if she wants to go for coffee sometime, get out of work and then ask her about all this there, I know is horrible but if you really like her then you got to call the shots!
Go for it, you'll never know unitl you try! Plus you super like her! What you got to lose fella? xx
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reader, Jovial  +, writes (3 November 2006):
 There is only one way to find out, why dont u ask her out and tell it like it is. because if u try doing something without her knowledge she might not understand even though ur intetions were good and u might end up in trouble.
at ur age i dont think u should care about what people may think of u everyone is doing as they please so why dont u? if u like her like u said, would it matter if ur coworkers crucify u? just make sure that whatever u do, do it maturely to avoid sexual harrasment charges as flirting in a work place can be a really traumatic experience if u are not at the same page.
On the other hand it can be ur imagination maybe she has realised that u like her and she doesnt feel the same way thats why she is nervous around u bcos she is afraid u might ask her out and she wont know how to turn u down, maybe she laughes at ur jokes bcos no onelse does and she feel sorry 4u. we might speculate and build a lot of scenarios but the fact still remains u like her and u got to tell her. ask her for coffee or befriend her maybe u will be able to get ur answers as she is the only one who is holding them. good luck
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (3 November 2006):
 Hi Shay,
I am not really sure how to advise you, as I need to understand a few things first. Are you an adult aged virgin, and this type of interaction is new for you? Also, at 34, I am curious as to why you would worry about how the people you work with would react badly. I am not suggesting to ask them for help, but I would like to know why you are worried. Is it sexual-harassment issues? Is it teasing? Please provide more information.
-Frank B KErmit
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2006): Aren't you a bit old to be playing the sap? Or doesn't your job matter?
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