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writes: I dont like relationshipss, I like being single and to just fool around with guys. I guess ive just been hurt in all my relationships that I just dont want to get hurt again soo.. i fool around with random guysmy friends say Im a slut?? is this truee? Reply to this Question
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reader, Jovial  +, writes (3 November 2006):
 I think slut is a strong word to use i think ur friend used it to discourage u but still u are in denial, the pain and rejection u felt from the failed relationship has messed up ur mind big time and now u are acting up, the question is how is sleeping around easing ur pain? dont u think u are now creating another big pain bit by bit? most of us have been hurt in relationships so what? u need to find a constructive way of dealing with ur pain not throw ur dignity and behave like a loose woman. u are still very young and a lot going on, find courage in doing things that will bring back ur self respect, for sure all those men who had hurt u now they are finding ways of justifying their actions maybe now they are even sending their buddies for quick fix is that how u want to get hurt by men now? Maybe now u dont realise this as being hurtful but im telling u if u sit down and reflect u will agree with me. I am glad u are reaching out now so please change ur choices wen u still can. good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2006): Sorry..I made an error. The word "equality" should have been "quality".
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2006): I wouldn't call you a slut but I will say, you sound sad and in denial, bigtime. Everybody's been hurt in relationships and we all have baggage from that. That's just real life. But to sleep with random guys simply to bandaid you hurt feelings and bitterness, is really hurting your confidence, not to mention your self-respect and reputation. You may not think it now, but it will catch up to you, in the future. Every guy you sleep with knows you are the "easy girl' is that the way you like the guys to think about you? I would find that demeaning and it would cut to my soul. Every person has a story of pain and betrayal in regards to relationships. But the equality of our lives and our inner happiness depends on the maturity and courage we use to deal with that pain in a healthy, creative way. That is what will lead you on the road to gaining high self-esteem, with yourself. Good luck.
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