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writes:I am 33 years old and have no real social skills and have never been on a date. I had really bad OCD when I was a kid and couldn't talk to people without repeating myself so I just stayed alone. I've been on medication since I was 13 for depression, OCD, and anxiety, so I've never had much energy.Because of these things I've never really had a career, just a series of dead-end jobs and have never tried to move up in them. When I try to think of a career I just hit a brick wall with no idea what to do.I don't have friends outside of work and don't really know how to talk to people. At my current job at a gas station my bad social skills become more apparent and the bad customers really make me angry at everyone in general again and again.A few years ago I tried to get a date because I turned 30 and had never been on a date or ever kissed a woman. I started with an online dating site and of course it didn't work out.I've tried to go to therapy as I had been to psychiatrists who prescribed lots of meds to me over the years and thought it would work. The first therapist was just a consultant who hooked me up with a shrink who was supposed to help me for my specific problems, but she quit, after I met with her once, for more lucrative work. I had to go back to an unhelpful consultant indefinitely after that. I eventually found another one who as you can see here did not help me with my social anxiety or other problems. I had gotten fired from my job so I had no insurance to go back and didn't feel like it anyway at that point.After these failures I grew very skeptical about therapy and can't really afford it now. I've been trying to get a date for years, but can't get up to talking to women or other people that much without getting uncomfortable. Eye contact is a problem.Most people don't believe me when I tell them how old I am and have never dated. I guess they think it's a trick or something. I'm not sure what to ask here other than how to get a date. Reply to this Question
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reader, MattChrisF +, writes (10 March 2011):
MattChrisF is verified as being by the original poster of the questionUsually when I go to support groups I'm the most functional person there since I have a job, drive, and live on my own. So there's not much to talk about from me because my probelms seem small compared to theirs. Not knowing how to talk to strangers is another problem, too.
I've tried to start making eye contact and smiling more. It's tough to do.
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