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writes:Sorry this is so long, but this question requires an explanation. I like this guy who works at the same place I work. I am 18 he is 28. Most of my family works at this place too. I have had this crush for about 4 years, yes it used to be just a crush. However, now everyone at work knows we like each other. We are pretty obvious. He talks to my sister about me, and we spend all of our time staring at each other. Every female at work gives me the evil eye because he is by far the most attractive, amazing, shy person you will ever meet. Now that I am legal, lol, there is only one thing stopping me from making a move, one BIG thing. He is married, yikes. Yes I know that sounds horrible, but his wife used to work with us as well before she was arrested, yes, and sent to another state to face additional charges she had there. His wife was a horrible, loud, obnoxious person, and no one was sad to see her leave. No one even understood why they were married, she is 50 years old and evil. My question is, what is the right thing for me to do? I really, really like him. My parents and friends have even accepted this. I don't want to be a home wrecker. I just want him all to myself. Any advice is greatly appreciated.Thank you so much,H
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2009): If his wife really is 50, and she was arrested, a break up is probably in the works.
I think an 18 year old with a 28 year old makes much more sense than a 28 year old with a 50 year old who resides in jail. I would probably talk with him to find out whats up, and what he is going to do. If his relationship with her looks like its over, I'd say make a move and let him know how you feel. Otherwise, I'd just be a friend and support him through this.
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reader, artistical_bumblebee +, writes (12 January 2009):
 he's married sweetheart, thats alot of baggage whichever way you look at it. He needs to be single first, before you make a move. if he likes you as much as you suspect he will make it so, he will sort out the complications.
File a divorce to begin with. Do you really want to be a bit on the side? because that is all you are whilst he is still married. There is no good making excuses or tiptoeing around the subject.
Tread lightly, if you like him go for it, but fix the broken parts first. Until you do , you both are living in fantasy.
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