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I'm 18 and a little confused about sex!!

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Question - (6 June 2007) 2 Answers - (Newest, 6 June 2007)
A female United Kingdom age 30-35, anonymous writes:

hiya, im 18 nearly 19 and im feelin a bit lost lol!

ive never had a serious realtionship, a proper snog, done stuf with a guy or had sex!

im seeing sum1 at the moment and so i kno tht stuf is on its way if u get me and im fed up of 'pleasing myself' so i do want to move on but im so scared which is totally stupid i know! cos things should happen naturally yeh?

i have a few general but quite sexual questions, if sum1 wudnt mind answerin id be veryyyyy grateful!

firstly as stupid as it sounds what does goin down on a girl mean?

if the times right and your about to have sex- i just dont understand the whole how a guy enters you etc?

thank youu x x x

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A female reader, love-him United Kingdom +, writes (6 June 2007):

love-him agony auntHey babe, theres absolutly no problem wit tht wot so ever.. goin down on a girl is where the partner uses oral aka (licking out) like what McBirdie said, 'if you have someone's head between your legs, someone is going down on you' thats it =]. When you have heard the phrase 'enters you' this i just where he puts his penis inside your vagina. if yoo ever need sum1 to talk to.. mail me x x x x i hope i helped x x x

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A female reader, mcbirdie United Kingdom +, writes (6 June 2007):

mcbirdie agony auntThings DO happen naturally, so while you are understandably nervous, try to relax as best you can. Even those with a great deal of experience will tell you...sex is, by its very nature, fraught with mistakes, slip-ups, and foolishness. The more relaxed you are, the more you'll be able to laugh when things go wrong, which will make it that much easier for you to get back on track and have a great time.

As to your questions, 'going down on a girl' means giving oral sex to a woman. Primarily this involves licking the clit and vulva, but can also involve the addition of fingers. It's not a clear cut definition, because no one really takes notes at this point. :) Pretty much, if you have someone's head between your legs, someone is going down on you.

Penetration is more simple than you are probably imagining, but not necessarily as easy as it looks in the movies. Depending on the guy's shape (some penises are much more curved than others) and hardness, you (or he) may need to guide him in with your hand. It is, though, pretty straight-forward.

Do make sure you sort out birth control beforehand, though, so that you are feeling more prepared and you may want to practice with a condom now. It sounds silly, but putting a condom on a banana or two will give you the confidence when the time comes to help out in bed.

Have a wonderful time, and don't overthink it! It is supposed to be fun. :)

Best of luck.

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