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writes:I've been with my boyfriend for two and a half years and love him to pieces. Last Christmas I went to a works Christmas party got really drunk and kissed two people. Nothing else happened and it only happened because I was really drunk. I was devastated the next day and vowed it would never happen again. Now whenever I go out it's all I can think about and I feel so guilty so I know it will never happen again.The only problem is the guilt now. I know it's my fault and something I deserve but I know I need to get over my guilt because it's making me want to tell my boyfriend. I think that would be the wrong thing to do; it would really upset him and make him not trust me again. It will never happen again and it didn't happen because of a problem with him or our relationship, it was just because of me.What can I do to stop myself feeling so bad? I feel like it want to tell him so bad but it wouldn't be the best thing for him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2014): If you didnt have sex and youre really sure it wont happen again , just let it go. But if youre tempted to cheat then leave him now. Dont hurt him.
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reader, k'nesh  +, writes (22 August 2014):
 Girl, keeping it in your heart with guilt is so depressing! Why don't you tell him and free yourself from this guilt. The truth must be told and if it was a mistake due to your drunkenness, he will believe! And cos he loves you, he'll know you're telling the truth!
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reader, Fari +, writes (21 August 2014):
 Hey, going around with guilt in your heart is like walking around with a boulder on your shoulder. All that you require is relief. This is not healthy for you or your relationship. What I can advise you to do and you are not going to like it but its for the best, is to tell your boyfriend what happened. If he is a good guy, he would be upset yes but he would understand. You have to tell him that it was mistake and that it would not happen again and you have to really work hard at ensuring it doesnt. If you dont, pretty soon what is in your heart is going to shine through and he is going to notice.
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