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36-40,
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writes:I've been single for 3 years and consider myself a good catch. For the first two years of that period, I wasn't actively looking. I'd go to clubs every now and then, and I'd also keep up-to-date with my female friends, but nothing every materialized on both fronts. In the past year, I've really pushed myself hard onto the dating scene. I've gone with the idea to accept almost any theory of dating. And yet, I'm not getting any real traction. The girls that like me, I don't like back. The girls I like, don't like me back.I'm curious about stories of people getting out of a long dry spell of singledom, and what they think got them out of it.
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reader, AuntyEm  +, writes (6 December 2012):
 I have had a few dating disasters in my time since divorce, which have tested my impressions of the opposite sex...it is difficult to meet someone you feel you can go foward with and the best connections are those you are not really paying attention to...the fun surprise meets or eyes across a crowded room.
I have the added difficuties that I am almost 50 and I enjoy my single life and space a little too much, but I do date from time to time but never really worry if it will go anywhere.
You are a young guy and I think confidence (not to be confused with arrogance) is attractive. Get out and about and just focus on meeting new people. Get yourself invited to a few social events, gigs, movies, parties and just concentrate of saying hi to different people and getting to know what they are about. You never know who might cross your path.
Keep your plans loose and try not to over think events because that can come off as overly intense.
Don't be put off by the 'she likes me, but I don't like her and visa versa' That happens to everyone.
I think dating for men is a numbers game, they can date several hundred women before they find someone they click with...but you can't meet numbers if you don't put yourself out there.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (6 December 2012):
 It is hard getting back in to the dating scene and sometimes it can take time and patience. I know for you right now it probably seems like it is not working out at all, but the thing is you are trying and you are open to new ideas so I guess for now that is what you need to keep doing.
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