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*razybihh
writes:I just recently broke up with a boyfriend and were still friends. Up until a couple days ago we have been hanging around each other every day all day. Then I stopped it because I still really liked him and he was pretty much using me as a booty call. Then a family friend that I've known for a couple years spent a week at my house to stay with his best friend who lives with me. So he spends the night all the time. About a year ago we had a fling but we never really dated, just fooled around a little bit. Then yesterday he snuck into my room in the middle of the night and we fooled around a bit. My problem is I really like both of them but my ex is a jerk and the family friend not only has a girlfriend of a year but also is really close to my family. Then i find out today that my family friend girlfriends best friend found out somehow. If she tells my family friend's girlfriend what happened then there is gonna be some very unhappy people in my life. What should I do?
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reader, Krazybihh +, writes (2 January 2011):
Krazybihh is verified as being by the original poster of the questionShe snitched. They broke up. Family doesn't know a thing. Me and family friend are now dating.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2010): You made this bed, now you have to sleep in it.
If you didn't want to get people hurt, why on Earth did you sleep with a taken man?
This is all on your hands now. You had the chance and ability to say no. You didn't, and now you must face the consequences properly, if there is even the slightest amount of decent human being in you.
I advise you to come clean now. To all that are going to be affected, particularly this 'friend' and his girlfriend. Don't tell them in advance. Turn up and say your piece, with evidence, that way he cannot squirm out of it and convince her you are lying.
Your conscience will be clear. Whatever comes after.
Flynn 24
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reader, YouWish +, writes (30 December 2010):
 Okay, wait a second. You have an ex who is a jerk. He's your ex though, so what you do with anyone else isn't his business. So let's get him out of the way.
The real issue is that you knew your family friend (I'm going to call him FF for now) has a girlfriend, yet you still allowed him to come into your room to fool around. Why did you do that? This guy is willing to cheat on his girlfriend, and you are an accomplice to that cheating.
You're kinda screwed, because the best friend is going to do what best friends do and will blow the whistle on that cheating FF. You should have thrown him out the moment he set foot inside your room. Do you really want to give your body to someone who has no problem cheating on someone he professes love to? Not a good choice in a guy.
Your family will be disappointed in you, but your family is your family, and will love you. The FF is going to lose his girlfriend if she's got any brain in her head.
Next time, stay away from your jerk booty call ex for good and stay away from guys who want to cheat on their girlfriends with you. Have some more self respect to find a guy who is good and available, or you could wind up in a much worse situation.
Be a lot choosier about who you date.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2010): Life is pretty simple. If you don't want people to find out about something, then don't do it.
Sometimes it takes things like these to blow up in one's face in order to make positive changes in one's life.
All you can do is live and learn. Obviously if the best friend knows, then the girlfriend is bound to find out. She is better off that way because she does not need to be dating her cheating boyfriend anyway. She deserves better. So for her this will work out.
As for you, maybe having to deal with a few unhappy people will be what you need as the driving force to not intrude in other people's relationships in the future.
Everything happens for a reason. Live and learn.
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