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writes:I am 21 years old, and have been with my girlfriend for almost 4 years now. Lately, we've been fighting and arguing almost every day. The fights we have are always about stupid and pointless things. I very rarely get upset about things, but it seems like she gets mad or upset about EVERYTHING. I feel like I'm losing feelings for her, but I don't know if this is just a phase we are going through. Do I break up with her? Go on a break with her? I don't know what to do. Also, if it comes to the point where I have to end the relationship, How do I do it? She is such a sweet girl and I will always care about her, but I feel like I can't hurt her. I'm all she has and I know that she needs me. She doesn't get along with her parents, and she doesn't have many friends. So if I break up with her, who does she have? What would she do? I need help!
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reader, Jen1689 +, writes (14 February 2011):
 You can't stay with someone because you are afraid for what will become of them afterward. That's very unhealthy, and if you do stay with her, you will resent her more and more as time passes. She will need to be on her own somehow. Because she hasn't had much time to find herself, she could be starting to resent you and the relationship. Not saying that she wants to be on her own, but I definitely got that way when I was with my first serious boyfriend. When we finally broke up, I had already moved across the country, away from all my family and friends, and I was completely alone. But I broke up with HIM, and it gave me time to find myself and find what I was looking for. If you're truly unhappy with her and you think this relationship needs to end, then end it. Holding onto something that's dead will only make you two very unhappy and it will turn into cheating, abuse, etc. Get out while you can both maintain level heads. Good luck.
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reader, Capri2  +, writes (14 February 2011):
You can't keep dating a person because you think she doesn't have anything but you in this life.
Anyway, if your are that worried you should break up and keep in contact as friends. Letting her know she can still count on you.
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