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writes:So im an 18year old, and haven't been in any relationships. Not a single bf, not cause im not a attractive, but im waiting for that challenging guy that blows off my mind. Two weeks a go 3 weeks ago i went to this library with my friend and saw this cute guy, i went up to him and asked him that i need it help finding some books. We hit it off well you know the usual, what school do you go and such and such. Mainly i was the one asking questions, obliviously cause im the one interested. The point was i was too shy to ask for this number so my friend did. I literally ran off to the next street, my friend came and said here you go. I texted him 3hrs later nothing called two days later nothing. I said ok i guess he was not interested. The books i had borrowed i had to bring um in, i couldn't resist going up and say what was up with that. I did, but differently "hey!" he was shocked! "i texted you and no reply he's all like i know." In my mind im all like okay your just going to say that!" Then he said well your to young im 21 and your 18. Im all like soo! He changed the subject to "how were those books." I said "good. well see you later." 10minutes passed and texted "hey(my name)" i replied saying " i thought i was too young.." He: haha, i forgot how attractive you areme:lolhe: you live around hereme: yeah,you?he: me toome: Whats going to happen from here he: I figure meet up have an enjoyable timeme: sounds great,this weekend?He: Very possible, ill let you knowme: do sohe: what are you doing tonight?me: friends house ,you?he: chilling at my place wanna do somethingme: do?he: Catch a movie at my placeme: sure,when?he: are you able to go out on weekdays?me: yea i can. you cant tomorrowhe: weeknights? got family stuff, ill let you knowme: ok, usually weekdays are pretty busy for me,but will work something out.thats was it. Then 2 days pass.I text him "whats up, remember me?'he says "i dont i actually lost all mt numbers. who is this?(my name)lol"oh hey whats up. Do you drive?"no sorry is that going to be a problem lolyes lol jkhe replies a day later "sorry im a bad texter.Yess i can see that, you should call me sometime.he replies 4 days later " i wanna meet up but im swamped with tests and papers; got my last week of class coming up, then off to summer break."Hey!yea cool, just hit me up lol"..so we talk for 30 like as soon as i text he textes back and then poof i write the last message and doesn't reply. Im confused, if hes not interested why textback, he would've said not interested; ingore me, or just never gave me his number. If i guys likes or is interested in a girl they wont (most of the time) play hard to get.
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (22 April 2012):
Given some of what he said like, "I forgot how attractive you are" and "Movie at my place" means he wants to hook up; not take you on a date. He's interested in having sex with you but probably not much more since he's not going out of his way to actually see you.
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reader, PerhapsNot +, writes (22 April 2012):
 He is not interested in dating you nor is he interested in you in general. He is responding in order to be nice. The majority of people will be friendly to someone who has confessed an interest in them because they are flattered, but they don't want to hurt their feelings with the truth. Most people do not like or enjoy rejecting another human being and that is what is happening here. He told you you're too young - he's giving you a hint. He isn't answering directly why he was ignoring because he doesn't want to hurt your feelings. He keeps giving you excuses why he isn't texting and meeting up with you in order for you to get a clue and leave him alone.Stop texting and contacting this man. It is very clear that he doesn't want to be pursued by you and that he is not interested. Never go after a man yourself. Most of the time, if you have to chase him, he won't be interested in you as much as you're interested in him.
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reader, Thisiscrazy  +, writes (22 April 2012):
 Sweetness never think your not attractive don't focus on flaws focus on your beauty and this will shine though and men will take note. Now as for this guy he is what I call a player he gave you his number for this reason if he hasn't gotten a better offer he can try you. Men like to have as many girls after them and he sounds like its all about him nothing about you.. If I was you I would not text him again or call him keep his number and see if he contacts you you will know its him if he does and say sorry my phone crashed lost all my numbers who's this.... Play his game I know you want to see him and it's all exciting but you showing him all this intrest makes it so easy for him to play the games he plays...I say if you don't hear from him in a months time forget him Be confident in yourself ok no one should be treated like that
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reader, Young Old Lady +, writes (22 April 2012):
 Sounds like he has a gf or other stuff going on. The phone tag thing happens sometimes with beginning a friendship. If you think you like the guy just hang in there to see if you really do. If you think its worth it. Good Luck
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reader, TrancedRhythmEar  +, writes (22 April 2012):
 Textbook attraction creation by him. Yes of course hes playing hard to get because he needs to keep u interested or would u prefer a sell out nice guy who sends u flowers within days? Boring. If hes mature hell know when to stop creating attraction n amplify it appropriately. Call him ask him out. If he refuses toss his number.
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