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writes:My boyfriend is giving me mixed signals all the time. He says he loves me but i dont know if he means it. He always goes running off to some other girl besides me. Ok one day another girl was crying because she wanted to go out with someone that was way way older than her. Well this girl is like 4 years younger than my boyfriend ok and it hurts that he can go run after her and baby her but when i have a problem he never does that to me. Then when i try to tell him how i feel i get shot down and i dont know why. If he actually loved me wouldn't he care how i feel? I dont know what to do PLEASE HELP Reply to this Question
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reader, thatgothgirl20 +, writes (28 November 2007):
 I agree, let go of this guy. You should do what my friend did in a situation similar to this one. Tell him that if he wants to treat her special, and not you, that he can have her, and break up with him. See what he does. I bet he comes crawling back to you with his tail between his legs not wanting to play games ne more. But like I said, you deserve someone better ne ways.
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (28 November 2007):
 Yes, you are absolutely right to be upset. Tears are a common way for manipulative females to get their own way and be quite sure that she intended to get some attention from your boyfriend by doing this. He put her needs ahead of yours. Yes. The only thing that you have control over here is whether or not he is your boyfriend, and I am sorry, but he is not behaving like one. You should look for someone who loves you and treats you the way that you deserve to be treated. You already told him how it makes you feel, so he knows that you don't want him around this other girl and he knows that it upsets you. He just doesn't care. He seems to be getting a kick from making you jealous and for him it's some kind of power trip - "Ya, I have two girls who are crazy about me...".
I am also assuming that this younger girl is in no way related to the two of you in some small way and that he is not being protective of her for a good reason. Is she a cousin? Sister's friend? Best-friend's girlfriend? He may feel responsible. BUT, If he has absolutely NO good reason to be her champion, he should not be doing this and ignoring your feelings. Only you can decide if he is worthy of your affections.
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