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male
age
41-50,
*ddieg
writes:I met this female on a dating site. She lives a few minutes from me. We have talked on the telephone and then she called me up and said she wanted to come over.I agreed. We watched a movie and i rubbed her shoulders and lower back. We were talking and we both said we didnt want to play head games or anything. We were making out, nothing else happened.It seems like now she is using every excuse not to talk to me. She made the first move for the kiss. She was polite about it and asked which i thought was respectful. Shes very cool and we have alot in common. She said she liked me and i do to. What should i do? Reply to this Question
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (28 November 2007):
 If she doesn't seem into you and she's not making an effort, accept this as a failed attempt and move on. It sounds like trying to figure out WHY she's avoiding you will be harder than just starting to get over this fling and going on with your life.
Good luck, sweetness. there are millions of other women on the internet! You'll find one who is more consistent than this one.
xxIndia
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female
reader, calamitysil  +, writes (28 November 2007):
 It sounds like she was keen to start off with and now she has second thoughts. Who knows why! You could pursue her to try and find out what put her off, but are you sure you really want to know? Maybe it's best to just put it aside as an experience better not repeated!
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male
reader, SamuraiRick +, writes (28 November 2007):
 It seems like everything is going right for you in this situation...except for the fact that she wants to avoid you now! We call this a SILENT BREAKUP....where you avoid the other person, not return calls pretend not to notice, basically fall off the planet for the other person. Some women like to do this to avoid telling you directly that the first date just wasn't all that. There’s not much you can do about it. Keep trying to reach her. At some point you have to give up.
Look at the bright side, she didn’t marry you before breaking up, and that's good.
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female
reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2007): Well maybe she is having second thoughts..or possibly making sense of her feelings. She could even be dating other people and is trying to find out who she really likes. So I would just sit back and not chase her if she is being indifferent towards you. You didn't mention whether you had sex together? Maybe that was all she wanted from you. To me it doesn't really look that promising.
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