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If a girl gives you her number but doesn't reply to a message does that mean she's not interested?

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Question - (25 May 2012) 8 Answers - (Newest, 26 May 2012)
A male United Kingdom age 30-35, anonymous writes:

Hi I have a question for the ladies.

Say a guy has met a girl and they exchange numbers. She knows that he intends to ask her out at some point but he hasn't done so yet. They exchange messages and she hasn't replied to one anymore. Does this mean she's getting bored already? Is she just waiting to be asked out? So question is now, does the guy message her? or just let her leave her be?

in case you haven't clocked, the guy is me.

I do not understand women half the time. They agree to exchange numbers but they dont reply to a message. What's the point.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (26 May 2012):

Women are complicated, and you as a guy, its completely normal not to understand them lol. But seriously, did she tell you she was interested in just friendship or anything more? Maybe because she gave you her number you assumed she was looking for a boyfriend? Or perhaps she is/was looking for a boyfriend and she's now either found someone else she's interested in or has hooked up with someone, and is too loved up to bother replying to other guys texts, or maybe she gives her number out to lots of guys giving herself options ... Who knows but besides all the above, I think you should just leave her be and see if she contacts you and if so what her intentions are. As a guy with experience, one thing that puts a girl off faster than anything, is a guy who constantly bombards her with messages and suffocates her.

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A male reader, N91 United Kingdom + , writes (26 May 2012):

N91 agony auntIn a word, yes.

A girl who was interested wouldn't be able to wait for your text and the conversation would be flowing easily back and forth.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (26 May 2012):

She is not interested.

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A female reader, Aunty BimBim Australia + , writes (25 May 2012):

Aunty BimBim agony auntMaybe there was too much talk (messages) and not enough action (going out). How many messages and over what period of time?

If she was responding to text and has since stopped a quick VOICE message might be the way to go.

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A female reader, natasia United Kingdom +, writes (25 May 2012):

natasia agony auntI don't know what or how many messages you have exchanged before she has not replied - that is an important detail.

You should have asked her out relatively quickly. She might go off going out with you, otherwise. All depends on the messages, really. Maybe in the course of them, she decided she wasn't interested. I don't know.

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A female reader, iloveblue Canada +, writes (25 May 2012):

iloveblue agony auntI agree to Foot-in-My-Mouth. Most of the time, I give my number to the opposite sex not because I am interested but because I don't want to embarrass them by saying no. The moment I know it's them calling me, I just don't pick up, they'll figure it out anyway later.

And guys do that too, don't they? They never call when they say they will. I suggest just remove her from your phonebook if she hasn't responded yet. Tell yourself "it's her loss!" :)

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A male reader, Danielepew Mexico +, writes (25 May 2012):

Danielepew agony auntTo your male mind, her giving you her number was a clear indication that she was at least open to your interest. But women don't think the same way, as you can see in Foot-in-My-Mouth's comment. So her giving you the phone number means nothing.

Her not replying does mean something. Call her and say, "Hey, I sent you a few messages but you replied to none. I am interest in asking you out, say, Monday. Are you interested?" If she says no, then you'll have your answer.

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A female reader, Foot-In-My-Mouth India +, writes (25 May 2012):

Foot-In-My-Mouth agony auntSometimes women give their numbers only because it's awkward to say no. It doesn't always mean that they're interested.

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