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writes:Me and my gf arranged theeesome with another guy our age, she can be naughty at times. Any advice? We have been together three years and a friend is going to join in. It really turns me on involving another guy. Any tips to make it amazing? I'm 25 she is 20. Reply to this Question
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (18 December 2015):
 Set some ground rules of what's ok and what's off the table as far as sexual acts go. And all agree to walk away and stop things if one of you says stop. It's either all three are in, or it's not happening. This is all about respect.
I would also recommend you get tested for STI's, all three of you, before going into this (and definitely after) and use condoms and not have him penetrate her. I mean, you wouldn't want to risk your girlfriend getting pregnant by a friend.
Grounds rules just makes it all easier. Decide on whether or not this is a one time thing or something you want to do again with your friend. In which case, there should be a discussion of monogamy from his side and yours, and if monogamy is broken then you get tested again for STI's before you do another threesome.
I had a gig like this going on with a couple once, and it worked out fine when there were rules to operate by.
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reader, Ivyblue  +, writes (18 December 2015):
 Detach yourself emotionally 100%. My advice would be NOT to be involving a friend instead do your homework and find a like minded person or couple. before going through with anything make sure that you both are aware of what is acceptable and what is not because getting caught up in the moment can have devastating effects on the relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2015): It usually ruins friendships and relationships, but especially when the person invited in is a part of your life already. Your friend will have been all over your girlfriend (and you?), would you drop him if it goes wrong? What boundaries are there? Are you all going to stop if one person changes their mind in the middle of it? What if your girlfriend gets attached to the friend? It's nearly always better in fantasies because everything goes the way you want - real life isn't like that.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (17 December 2015):
 My advice to you would be are you sure you are ready for this. I have saw so many relationships go wrong once they have invited a third person in to their bed.
Many things could go wrong, you could get jealous of your GF and friend. Also she may develop feeling for him once you have all been intimate which also spells out trouble. My advice to anyone would be not to invite anyone in to their bedroom.
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