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writes:Am facing a serious problem in my sex life coz of monotony. My girlfriend and i have been enjoying our quality time but its become very boring of recent especially for me. She doesnt seem to have any interest in trying any other sex style apart from the traditional one, which is man-on-top. I personally would love to try doggy style but am afraid she is going to think am perverted. What can i do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2008): When it becomes boring, then it is the individual who is bored that is the problem.
You should look at the other aspects of your life and see if they need improvement. Education, money, spend more time with family could be the missing link.
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reader, Susan Strict  +, writes (22 April 2008):
 Now, be careful... it's illegal to have sex in any position other than the traditional one if you happen to be in Washington DC. In London, there's a law that makes it illegal to have sex on a parked motorcycle (although not specifically on a moving motorcycle - other laws may apply!)
OK.. so, seriously now: with the wide variety of what is possible, it does seem a pity not to try at least some of it. I'm not too sure that doggy style is the best place to start, because it may feel wrong for someone who is sensitive about such things. What about starting by trying simply having her on top? That should be far easier to slide into, if you see what I mean.
Can I mention foreplay? Stroking or kissing (nibbling, licking, sucking, even gentle biting) various parts of the body - not necessarily the sexual parts - can be a very good lead-in to the sexual act itself. With effective stimulation like this from all sorts of angles (and therefore all sorts of positions) you can find yourself ending up at almost ANY angle and position when the moment seems right to start intercourse. Be inventive - and concentrate on her enjoyment before you worry about what position you're aiming to end up in, and then you may find that ANYTHING is possible!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2008): You could try some of the advice from DoubleM on cunnilingus (http://www.dearcupid.org/question/what-advice-do-you-have-about-giving-and.html) I think that might spice things up a bit and she would be very receptive to anything you suggest after that!
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reader, rproctor  +, writes (22 April 2008):
have you tried getting her on top of you first? Try to have her ride you.
If you can accomplish that, you can bring in other positions.
Explain to your partner that its about you and her, and pleasuring one another.
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