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*rion314159
writes:My ex and I have a very long history (about six years) of on-off dating. For the last year she has been going out with someone else and seemed very happy. I have (or had) just gotten to the point of being over her and happy with my life, albeit still single. Now, after we saw each other at the wedding of a mutual friend and (as usual) spent the day flirting and, perhaps stupidly, ended up in bed together, she says she has always loved me, can't imagine her life without me, etc. and wants us to be back together. I now know that her and her new boyfriend have been having a bad time recently (that caught me out with the flirting because the fact that she is with someone else usually acts as a break on it going any further). The sex is fantastic, and I really care about her and we have always remained friends even when she (mostly) or I (once) have been out with other people. It is so complicated and has thrown me into total turmoil, just as I thought I was fine. What if she really is the love of my life, etc.? I am pretty shy and find it hard to meet new people, and have recently been thinking that I would like to start dating again, and perhaps that is also a factor in my thinking. What should I do?
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reader, deadokie21  +, writes (20 May 2008):
I have been dating my g/f like u have but only 3 times over the past 4-5 years.. I know how u feel, when i saw my EX (at the time she was) i flirted with her and she did back when at the time she had a bf... We never got to the point of having sex or kissing though... my part i dont like cheating. I say just let things go for awhile.. You will eather get back together and stay together... Or u can end it all together and just be friends with her sooner or later u will find another person who in your eyes then will be the best thing that has ever happened to you. And your ex well.. You may always love her but dont bring it to the point you would cheat for her.. Hearts arnt ment to be played with..
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reader, notinthesane +, writes (29 April 2008):
 The two of you have been on and off for six years. That should have been plenty of time for you to see that you just don't work as a relationship. Love is a wonderful thing, but you need so much more to keep a relationship going and it sounds like that other stuff just isn't there for the two of you. I would say to stay away from her and, if you feel that you're ready to see other people, then go for it, but that woman sounds like a heart breaker to me.
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reader, Orion314159 +, writes (29 April 2008):
Orion314159 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThe title of this question pre-supposes the answer that I want to end my fixation on my ex and start dating again. The question I am actually asking is whether or not I should get back with her (or something along those lines). Clearly the title writer does not think so... :-)
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