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writes: I need others help. I have been married for 6 years, together for 8 years. Over the last two years we have had a tough time, more me and our life changed dramatically when I got MS. My husband was my best friend in the world until a couple of months ago when I went out of town to see a girlfriend, and came home a couple of days later to discover that whilst I was away my husband had sex in our home with his best mate's partner, both of whom were visiting whilst I was away. His best mate was asleep in the spare room and he asked her if she was keen. She had apparently offered before, was apparently declined but this night he offered. He said he is ashamed and guilt ridden, said it was a big mistake and that he had no reason for his behaviour. He said there is nothing wrong with us and it was all a big mistake. How do I know this is not just him? We had no dramas, he thought the world of his friend and now it seems like I don't even know him. Can there really be no reason at all for cheating? What is that all about. He knew it was something I would die over, promised never to, and now I don't even know who he is. Why would he if he knew I had had a terrible time and that he loves me so much. How could you guys, please is it possible that "no reason", just it was there, is what is really going on. Help, I am now sick and need only to be with someone safe for me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your input on my situation. It has disturbed me a lot to know that I gave my heart and soul to someone who could do this to me with all the other problems I am facing. And it is so devastating that I never saw it coming and was the happiest in the relationship I had ever been. But now I feel I had a different relationship perspective than him!
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reader, Skeez  +, writes (16 August 2007):
 Heya love.
All I can say for this one is. What a bl**dy snake!
Pitiful man. He sounds like a terrible person.
Im sorry to hear that he has acted so foolishly and has affected the way you feel about him. My bf cheated on me with a lot of ppl at the same time. But not sex. So I personally find this outrageous.
Not only has he betrayed you, but his best friend aswell.
He says it was a big mistake for him to do it.
Ask him why the hell he offered her sex when he insists that your marriage is great and there are no problems. If he thinsk that about your marriage, then there was no need for him to have sexual intercourse with another woman.
He sounds like a spiteful man who was only thinking of himself. Maybe he is attracted to her, but still that makes no need for him to act that way.
Talk to him and if you still feel betrayed and that you cant trust him anymore. Then mybe a divorce will be good.
I dont think personlly you shoudl stay in a relationship with a man who has done such a terrible thing to you.
But if you want to save your marriage talk to him and perhaps getting relationship councelling
good luck sweetheart
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2007): That is awful. There is a reason for it. The woman who did it doesn't respect her husband at all, your husband doesn't respect you & his best friend. And while he was in the other room, your husband screwed his wife? What a snake. I can't believe you didn't know he was this kind of person. Did he never do anything before to make you question him? Does his best mate know about this? If not, you need to tell him. The woman who did this with your husband deserves to face consequences of her actions. I don't know what you can do about it, but if I were you I would leave him. You'll never be able to trust him. I am very sorry this happened to you.
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