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writes:Hi There, my ex- boyfriend dumped me a week ago after 18 months together. I was due to move into his house and bought a car for this purpose. I hadn't seen him the weekend before because he said he was sick. During the week when he rang I was cool with him because I hadn't seen him in a couple of weeks, but he invited me out to family dinner on sat and I went. Thought it went okay, brought a gift. He was in serious enough form but always is on those occasions, next day he picks me up for dinner and says he doesn't feel the same anymore. Out of nowhere, was my impression. What could I say? I love you but if that's the way you feel. He says he has been thinking about it for ages but I don't know why he never said anything. He had been talking about a hotel break the week before and best routes for me to get to work from his house. I could punch the wall, or can cry but I'm not sure what else to do. I have good friends and family so that's cool but I don't know what to do. Any advice? :)
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (19 November 2007):
 Hi,
I'm afraid a lot of guys out there just cannot commit to a relationship.
Moving in together was the final straw,as the date drew closer he probably felt more and more worried. I have never had a problem with living with a girl but I know plenty of guys who simply cannot do this, for fear of losing their precious independence.
What can you do with guys like this? Nothing really, there are plenty of us blokes who are prepared to commit so good luck in finding one who will.
All the best.
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reader, dearkelja  +, writes (18 November 2007):
 It is possible that with the next move of the relationship (you moving in) that he took some time to re-evaluate the relationship and decided that it was time for him to move on. I wouldn't jump right to cheating at this time. What was this family dinner? How do you get along with his family? None of this really matters except I am sure you want to know "what happened to make him feel this way." I know I would. But sometimes we don't get to know the why. Give it some time and try hard to move on. Maybe sometime down the road if it is still bugging you ask him what happened. I wouldn't ask now because I don't think it would change anything. I am sorry this happened and wish you luck.
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reader, AnnaW219  +, writes (18 November 2007):
 well he might be a little anxious i meen people tell you
oh your moving to quick if you want id look at my article it gives info about cheating that maybe what he was doing if you didnt see him for ages you best off asking him and if he has got a new girlfriend you now what has happened he has finished you for another i am sorry for that
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