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writes:I was recently at a party where I met a guy and we kissed - at least I have no recollection of having gone any further with him. One friend told another that she had caught him with his trousers down and that I had a hole in the crotch area of my tights which really scared me. She has been known to exaggerate slightly, but I doubt she would go THAT far if it wasn't true. I checked the tights and there are a few small holes so it's possible that he fingered me, but didn't actually have sex with me, because having to take my tights off later that evening to get into bed is one of the few things I do actually remember, so I know they were on all night. But then again... I know that because I was drunk anything could have happened but surely I would have been pretty aware of actually having sex with this guy? Thanks for reading!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2008): well i was fingered and my tights were pulled down then pulled back up. its more likely than him doing it through your tights surely
can you remember anything?
if not then its possible, but youd probs be able to feel something, like tingling for the next day or two
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reader, DoubleM  +, writes (24 August 2008):
 Yes, you would have some recollection of having had intercourse unless you were completely unconscious for a considerable length of time. I think that your friend more than exaggerates.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2008): Mistakes happen, there's no way to know for sure... but in the future, take note of your limit. When you think "just one more drink" skip it, lol. When you can't taste the alcohol anymore you've already gone too far. It's not your fault if you got taken advantage of, you dont' deserve it, but it is within your power to be prudent.
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reader, ChiRaven +, writes (23 August 2008):
 I note that THAT girl, while decrying English girls, didn't have the 'nads to tell us where SHE was from. ;-)
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2008): English girls !!!
Lack of self respect,lack of dignity !!
Terrible !
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reader, ChiRaven +, writes (22 August 2008):
It is not all that uncommon for people who drink heavily to have periods during that time which they completely do not remember later. So yes, it's possible that you did have sex with him. He might even have had your tights down and gotten them back up without your remembering it. Not impossible, but not too likely either. Most people will, in fact, have at least hazy memories later.
And if you did, what then? Do you think you might be pregnant or have caught a disease? Go to your doctor and get tested. Do you think he's likely to start boasting about making it with you? Just brazen it out and deny everything. Tell people who ask that he tried to take advantage of you when you were drunk, but nothing happened beyond a kiss. As far as you know, even if he DID push the issue, that's what happened, since you don't remember having sex with him. And oh by the way he's a big jerk for bringing it up.
And other than that, don't worry about it. You may be to blame for getting drunk, but you are certainly not to blame for somebody taking advantage of your drunken state to force sex on you without your consent (if that's what happened). So there is really no reason you should feel bad or feel ashamed of yourself about this.
But you might want to learn something about your limits as far as drinking is concerned, for the future. If you wake up the next morning and aren't sure whether a guy got into your pants or not the night before, you probably shouldn't have had QUITE that much to drink. Verb. Sap. Sat.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2008): I think you would probably know if you had sex. You would have some tenderness around your vagina, and might have semen staining on your underwear or semen leaking out of you [white liquid, smells a bit like fish], although not if he used a condom. If you are getting so drunk that you can't control situations, or remember what went on afterwards, you need to think about your alcohol use. You're probably ok this time, but what about next time?
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reader, Dazzerg +, writes (22 August 2008):
 Well you would think so but your recollection of events does seem to be a little hazy so I wouldnt say anything with 100% certaintity. At the moment all you have to go on is some pretty ropey testimony from your friend and your own worst imaginings. You can either ask the guy yourself or you can ask your mates if you were ever noticably absent for a long period of time which would have been sufficent for you to have sex in.
Where did you wake up and in what state did you wake up?? Other than that its a bit hard to say anything for sure...
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