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writes:hi. my name is marie. and i just wanted to know what i should do about the situation im in. there is this man that i love named paul. we use to be together. we were in love and i wouldn't have traded our love for the world. things got bad later on in our relationship and we broke up. i still wanted to be with him though but he wasnt ready to get anything started again so i had to move on. i got with another man and he knew it and he didnt like it at all because he still wanted to be with me but just not then. now im single again and i would really like to work things out with him because i love him so much and i know he's the one for me. i mean he says so his self that there has never been a girl that he has met that wants everything he wants and likes everything that he likes. he says im the female version of him. but anyway, i just recently told him how i felt and he's playing hard to get. i know he loves me and wants to be with me. he's just scared and so my question is how do i get the love of my life back. please help me. god bless.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2007): Hi my name is valerie and I went through the same thing my ex said he stiil loved me but didn't know what he wanted he said he tried another relationship but he just couldn't do it cause of me and so I didn't know what to so so I accepted the fact the he wasn't ready so I stood by is side as friends and I hadn't seen him since the day we broke up witch was two months earlier and I had been talk to him a month after and then when we sen eachother it was like wow I don't know what it was but something was there and we hugged and then out of no where he kissed me and appologized for everything and we got together so just be his friend and be nice and treat him with reppspect and see what happens
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reader, Giles  +, writes (24 November 2007):
Hi Marie. Thanks for your time.
So, at the end of the day, you want to know how to get a guy that you once went out with, back?
Well, if he DOES love you, like you say he does, and he IS just playing hard to get, well, thats just a power game he uses to feel powerful. You can't encourage petulant behaviour like that. Doing so would only ultimately emasculate him. Nothing will make the guy change his attitude more than seeing the girl who's easily available and convenient start to distance herself (thats you, by the way!) Im not say you must also play the same game. That would be just wind up a disaster. Im saying, don't beat around the bush. If you told him how you feel, and he gives you an answer, accept it. You can't change his mind. Your actions should show the acceptance, and that you're moving on, but you can stay friends. Watch him change his attitude!!
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