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writes:Ello. Ok my problem is..a guy problem. Well I've pretty much had a HUGE crush on a guy since he moved to my town and we were in 3rd grade. Now we are in 9th grade. I still REALLY like him! He had a girlfriend not too long ago but they broke up a while ago. He is single now. I am very afraid of approaching him or talking to him or even looking at him! At prom i actually brought up the courage to ask for a pic with him. I was shaking tremendously. He is awfully nice to me when we bump into each other. And I try to make as much eye contact as possible. But the only thing I want is to stop being so frickin scared of approaching him and try to talk to him.Any advice would be MUCH obliged!!! Danke!! (thanks)
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reader, NoSushi +, writes (27 May 2008):
NoSushi is verified as being by the original poster of the question Yay another good answer! Thanks a lot fer the advice :-)
I'll try this as well. Thanks again!
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reader, NoSushi +, writes (26 May 2008):
NoSushi is verified as being by the original poster of the questionooOOOoo ok! Thanks bunches for the tip! I'll try it and I hope it works! : )
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reader, PeterPan +, writes (26 May 2008):
 This trick works for some people... maybe it will work for you. Some people who are petrified with fear try to visualize themselves successfully speaking or acting in a situation that brings them fear. In other words, they see them selves having a friendly conversation, or laughing and enjoying an event, saying witty things and generally enjoying the experience. I'd suggest you do the same kind of thing. Imagine yourself having a pleasant conversation with this guy. You're talking, laughing together and sharing a wonderful moment together. You imagine yourself not having any fear at all. Keep that vision running over and over in your mind and you will begin to believe it's not only possible it will happen, you will believe that it has (and will) happen. In a way, you're psyching yourself up for it. It's the same kind of advice people give others for when they are going to address a big meeting of people and have to give a presentation.
The trick works. Try it and you will feel less anxious about speaking with this guy. Remember, he's probably just as intimidated as you are! Except, now you know the secret!!
Good luck!!
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reader, Tremor  +, writes (26 May 2008):
 It's always hard to talk to a crush. Much as you try and stop it, you go red and start shaking and can't look him in the eye... We've all been there, it's a natural response.
My advice to you would be to gradually start talking to him more often. Say 'hi' and wave in the hallway, ask him if he did X homework, see how his weekend went, etc etc.
Try to become comfortable around him, and try to think of him as a regular person like you, as opposed to the unattainable demi-god that most crushes seem to be.
I always found pretending they were female was helpful, because I would then feel like something of an equal. This obviously doesn't work for everyone, but hell, anything is worth a try, right?
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