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anonymous
writes:Dear ReadersPlease help! I met a man 7 months ago on an online dating site. He was married but separated from his wife. We dated, and eventually began a sexual relationship. However, he has never invited me to his home (or his Dad's home, where he is now living), saying that he doesn't want his ex-wife to know he is seeing someone, because they haven't concluded the property settlement and they had an enormous amount of wealth between then in property etc.He says that she is vindictive and would make life so difficult for him. So - he always comes to my house, we see each other twice a week, but I have never met his family or friends. He maintains that he really cares about me, and that if he didn't have stuff to deal with he would want a relationship with me.He says he knows that eventually this is where we are headed. Right now I want more, I want him to invite me to his home, even for 5 minutes. I have strong feelings for this man and don't want to lose him, but know he isn't ready for a relationship.Please help, what would you do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2007): He is lying to you. Go ahead and snoop, follow him in a friends car, read his emails whatever you need to do to prove it to yourself, but you know he is lying.
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reader, Jovial  +, writes (7 February 2007):
 hi
i agree with eve, the only way to find out is through detective work, she might be vindictive and everything but why would she care? its over between them. he is still married if you ask me. if you cant seem to find anything on him regarding where he lives if you dont mind opening up even if its a lie you can tell him how you feel and how seeing where he lives will make u feel even if its just for a 60 seconds and if u can stop any sexual intimacy with him make excuses like him and see what happens, if he cares about you he will take you to his house if he doesnt he it will turn into fight and read along the lines you will be able to get the answers you seek.
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reader, AskEve  +, writes (7 February 2007):
 Hmmmm this all sounds kind of dodgy to me. What do I honestly think? Okay, I'll give it to you straight. I don't think he IS seperated from his wife, I think he's spinning you a yarn love. He's telling you she's vindictive and horrible so you'll feel sorry for him.
He's having his cake and eat it, he's going round to your house, having sex with you, saying what you WANT to hear then going home again where he lives WITH HIS WIFE! Do your detective work without him knowing. Find out his address and follow it up. I bet you'll see I'm right! ;o)
Eve
P.S. Let me know okay? I'd be very interested to hear.
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