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My boyfriend told me he loved me but I hesitated to say it back to him and now he's never said it again. Should I be worried?

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Question - (6 February 2007) 2 Answers - (Newest, 7 February 2007)
A female Australia, anonymous writes:

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Hi. Late last year my boyfriend told me that he thought he loved me. I was so shocked when he said that, I didnt answer straight away (hes not the kind of guy that you imagine falling in love, hes the guy that falls in lust). After a second or two I said it back (I honestly do love him), but I don't know if he saw my pause as hesitation. He hasn't said it since and I don't know if he changed his mind or is just worried because I 'hesitated'. I dont want to ask him straight-up because if I am right and he's changed his mind then i could cause a problem (make myself look clingy or needy)

Just some details about our relationship:

- I'm still a virgin and he respects my decision to stay that way - for a while at least ;)

-We're both eighteen

-We were friends for three years before we dated

-We dated for three months before we were friends

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A reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2007):

Well, I think a lot of people think love is a pretty big word, and they take it seriously and don't want to wear it out....I think he was trying to let you know he cares about you, and I don't think your hesitation made him feel that you don't feel the same way, you said it after all.

I think if you want to tell him that you love him without being prompted you can do that, sometimes men say it as a prelude to talking about having if you want to wait for marriage and he respects your wishes and cherishes them, all the better.

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A male reader, agony_uncle_r United Kingdom +, writes (7 February 2007):

its plausible he noticed the pause and feels that theres no point in saying it if you dont feel the same.

but i think its more likely hes a young man, hes not too sure of his feelings and even if he is doesnt feel the need to tell you every 10 seconds.

99% of worries/ problems in relationships are because theres no communication.. talk to him,ask him,tell him how u feel.

it sounds like you have a strong relationship based on friendship first which is always good.

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