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writes:DearCupid, I am 20years old and have been with my boyfriend 4 years, I am in love with a man that i have been seeing for the past 2 and a half. The other man is 30 and has a girlfriend and a child, our relationship continued (even through his girlfriends pregnancy) for nearly a 18 months. I want to be with this other man so much. What should I do?
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (12 April 2010):
 You were once in love with your boyfriend. Whatever happened to make you fall out of love would happen again with this new man. You didn't tell your boyfriend about this, so I believe he has something that you want to hold on to, but he deserves to know the truth. Your boyfriend probably won't be able to survive this so prepare to let him go. When I say let him go that means completely when your new relationship doesn't work out you don't go back to him. As for the new guy he failed his challenge to remain faithful in the most critical time when women need support. You are going to learn a lot of life experience from him but don't expect too much when it comes to commitment. Get the most out of him and never regret your decision.
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reader, xXxLisxXx  +, writes (12 April 2010):
 if this man has a girlfriend and i kid, hon, i dont think you should try to be with him ANY LONGER. that means, no more affair, no more anything. i KNOW this isnt what you want to hear cuz it isnt what i would want to hear, becuase it isnt by far what i would want to hear, but do you really want to do that to the poor kid?
if you dont care about your bf, break up with him, but find SOMEONE ELSE. not this man who is 10 YEARS older than you. and hunny, that alone kinda scares me. its gross.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (12 April 2010):
Oh dear. You've been had. The other man has just used you for sex, and you can almost bet that he won't leave her for you, no matter what you do. The best thing you can do, for the sake of your boyfriend, is to at least let him go so he can find a woman who loves him. Then leave this other guy, who has just used you. Spend some time alone thinking about what you want instead. If you don't, you will have a boyfriend who hates you, you will have a mother of a child who hates you, a child who hates you, a lover who wants nothing to do with you and your reputation as a woman will be left in the gutter. If this man wanted to be with you, he would have left his girlfriend for you no questions asked. You have been used, and you're making a big mistake if you think this will lead anywhere.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 April 2010): Well you are both cheating, so how bout you stop cheating and just start being with each other. Then you can worry about one another cheating on each other, because you obviously have a record of being untrustworthy. But definitely, you need to tell your bf of 4 yrs that your in love with someone else and break up with him.
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