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I want to leave her but I don't want to ruin my childrens lives. What do I do?

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Question - (6 February 2008) 2 Answers - (Newest, 6 February 2008)
A male United Kingdom age 51-59, *illyme22 writes:

Hi, I hate my girlfriend so much 90% of the time, we have 3 gorgeous children all aged under 4 and I would be heartbroken if I had to leave them, they are my entire world. I put up with my girlfriend because i have seen the hurt on other children when their parents split up. I am so desperate to walk away from her but I cant do it,. I cant ruin my childrens lives.

What should I do??

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A female reader, Ileana United Kingdom +, writes (6 February 2008):

Ileana agony auntHey,

Couldnt you work things out with her? You loved her once can you remember why you did and work things out on that?

If not, you can be a father and not a boyfriend. I recomend you leave now, otherwise they'll resent you because they understand. Now they wont hate you as much as being sad you cant be there as much.

Talk to your girlfriend. I have twins with my ex boyfriend and we broke up shortly after they were born - he didnt want to miss a thing so i let him stay in my house with me, but a separate move. A few months later we got back together.

Separation makes the heart grow fonder.

Love

Iileyana

xx

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A female reader, TELLULAH United Kingdom +, writes (6 February 2008):

TELLULAH agony auntYou are ruining there lives, by staying with thier mother that you hate. Why do you hate her so much anyway? Is there no chance that you could fix things between you?

If not then you have to go, while they are young. It doesnt get easier as they grow up, it gets a hell of a lot harder. Of course it will hurt them for a while, but they are young and will get over it. If you stay with a person that you hate, you are wasting your life.

Hope this helps. X

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