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sillyme22
writes:Hi, I hate my girlfriend so much 90% of the time, we have 3 gorgeous children all aged under 4 and I would be heartbroken if I had to leave them, they are my entire world. I put up with my girlfriend because i have seen the hurt on other children when their parents split up. I am so desperate to walk away from her but I cant do it,. I cant ruin my childrens lives.What should I do??
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reader, Ileana +, writes (6 February 2008):
 Hey,Couldnt you work things out with her? You loved her once can you remember why you did and work things out on that? If not, you can be a father and not a boyfriend. I recomend you leave now, otherwise they'll resent you because they understand. Now they wont hate you as much as being sad you cant be there as much.Talk to your girlfriend. I have twins with my ex boyfriend and we broke up shortly after they were born - he didnt want to miss a thing so i let him stay in my house with me, but a separate move. A few months later we got back together. Separation makes the heart grow fonder.LoveIileyanaxx
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reader, Annalisa + ♥, writes (6 February 2008):
 They say hate is often the result of unrequited love. You must have loved her at some point! Have you tried to talk about your issues? Think about the problems in your relationship, then sit her down and have a good old heart to heart. Tell her the children are really important to you and therefore you want to be happy with her, for their sake, if not just for yours! Sometimes love turns to hate because we expected more from our partner than what they could actually give us; sometimes their behaviour changes because they are unhappy but don't know how to fix it; as partners, it is our duty to help each other be more lovable, too! It takes patience and understanding, and the will to love.
God bless you, I hope you sort things out!
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reader, TELLULAH + ♥, writes (6 February 2008):
 You are ruining there lives, by staying with thier mother that you hate. Why do you hate her so much anyway? Is there no chance that you could fix things between you?
If not then you have to go, while they are young. It doesnt get easier as they grow up, it gets a hell of a lot harder. Of course it will hurt them for a while, but they are young and will get over it. If you stay with a person that you hate, you are wasting your life.
Hope this helps. X
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