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writes:Im 17, and a virgin, im a size 16-18 and i really want to have sex! ive had no sexual experiences, I just want to get out there! The only thing is, then guys im into, tend to like slim girls, i dont think i'll be able to find a guy that likes my size.Most of my friends have lost their virginity and im jelous of them, because they have the body and the confidence to get out there.. Please help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 February 2011): I think that you need to get over this craving for sex. Sex is an expression of love. The strongest way of showing love. She should keep your virginity for the man you truly love. Sleepig around will get you nowhere
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 February 2011): Thanks for the advice, but i dont mean to be ungreatful, i dont want to have sex cus my friends are having it. i want to have sex because I want to.
I have a medical condition where its extreamly hard for me to loose weight and i do excercise and eat healthily.
And in terms of "getting out there" i dont mean just find a random guy and have sex with him, i mean i need to find some confidence to talk to guys without them making fun or me.
You see in the films, where the jock goes to ask the fat girl to dance and completley humiliates her, i dont want anything like that happening.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2011): If you don't like your body of feel unhealthy, start working out. If you do love your body, find a guy that loves it too. Don't date a guy who doesn't love every curve of you. They're out there. Promise. Also, don't be too jealous. The first time sucks. For guys or girls, it is almost always one of those memories that is sentimental but comedic. Take your time, and find the right guy, even if he isn't on the radar right now.
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reader, missm83  +, writes (10 February 2011):
 get a sex toy....dont look to lose your virginity just to anyone. and in time you will find a guy that will want you for you. But if you feel that your over weight lose it.. your still so young that it shouldn't be to hard. good luck!
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reader, Problem.helper +, writes (10 February 2011):
 Ok go to the gym , eat healthy food , go running , don't eat dinner after 7 pm and drink a lot of water. You will lose weight, gain more self-esteem.
Instead of complaining do something.
Good luck :)
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reader, ashley187 +, writes (10 February 2011):
 Honestly nobody should want to just "get out there" and start sleeping with random people, especially someone your age. You feel left out because you arent like the rest of those girls? You should be proud that you ARE NOT like them!! Dont share yourself with someone until you are in a serious relationship and ready for that. Save yourself. Besides.. in a few years when those other girls who are "getting out there" all have STD's and unwanted pregnancies.. you can look back and be glad you werent like the rest.
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reader, LovelessAct1 +, writes (10 February 2011):
First off, do not feel pressured to experience sex just because your friends have. From what you wrote, it seems like you only want to lose your virginity because you want to keep up with the other girls. I'll say right now that it is not a contest and finding a relationship only for sex can be emotionally damaging. I recommend waiting until you're involved with someone who is genuine and cares about you before deciding to have sex. Sex is a wonderful experience, but you'll only feel its beauty if it becomes meaningful to you as well as the person you're with.On the other note, there are plenty of guys out there who enjoy girls of different size varieties. The trick is, a lot of them don't feel they can admit to it because of what modern media tells them is acceptable. Especially when they're still in school, an overbearing need to fit in will hinder their confidence and cause them to deny any individualism they may possess.But, they do exist. A lot of gentlemen prefer curves on a woman as it symbolizes femininity. Just be yourself and more importantly enjoy who you are! Be an individual and be confident in what makes you who you are. Sometimes that alone can attract guys more than looks ever could (the right kind of guys, anyways) as seeing a woman who is happy and proud of herself is far more endearing than listening to someone complain about themselves constantly and seek improvement in every little thing. Just show your true colors and don't be afraid to stand out from everyone else. You'll attract the right kind of person by doing so.
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