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writes:I can't wait to get married and live together with my fiancee! He's 29 and I'm 23, and we've been together for 2 years, engaged for 1. We decided on a long engagement because we're both still in school, and he feels he should have his degree first and be out of his parents house before we get married. I completely understand and agree, but it feels like it's been forever, I really feel like we've been together much longer than we have, and I really can't wait to start our future together! (It has nothing to do with the wedding, we may even elope, it doesn't matter to me.) I think I feel this urgency to do it right away because I'm moving away for college, and we'll be 5 hours apart in an LDR for 2 years...How can I make this feeling go away?? :(
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (28 March 2012):
 5 hours apart is hard but if you know it's only for two years it's not so bad.
and it's school so you will have breaks when you can be together....
make plans to meet often and contact each other often (texts or phone calls and nightly dates so to speak)
for me being LDR for one year sucked... we were only 2 hours apart and I did the commute from hell at least twice a week to be with him..
On days we were not together there were "wake up phone calls" and "bedtime tuck in phone calls" any other contact (email or texts or other phone calls) were bonuses...
I have friends that are 2 hours LDR right now and have been for TWO YEARS... they are getting engaged next month but will be LDR for 3 more years due to his job (he retires in 3 years).. their game plan is 3 weekends together 1 weekend apart every month but they have a 9 pm date every night on skype... for two hours... they get online with friends and game and have voice chat with everyone and they have a private window for their text chats....
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reader, person12345 +, writes (28 March 2012):
 It sounds less like you are looking forward to the future and more like you're nervous that something will happen in 2 years. I know it seems like if you marry him before you move away it will give an extra layer of security to the relationship, but it just doesn't work like that. LDR are tough, but if you really love each other and work at it, you can definitely get through it. Just make sure you both make time to talk and keep in touch. You both need to make an effort to involve the other in your life while apart. Write letters, make playlists for each other, things like that.
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