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writes:Lately my husband has been adjoined at the hip with his computer. He's also been working late at the office. He'll get up in the middle of the night after I'm asleep and get on the computer again. He says he's just finishing up work, but it's like this every night. He's been spending less and less time with me and our three kids. This morning I went into the bathroom and when I went to brush my hair, I found a hair in it that was not mine. It was long, coarse, black hair, which could only have come from a black woman, of which I am not. I don't even personally know any black women. I haven't confronted my husband, because I know he'd just deny it. For the past year or so, off and on, I'll find strange scratches on his back, and when I ask him about it, he says he must have gotten scratched from a crumb in the bed. I think he may be cheating with one of his co-workers. Possibly this black girl that is in his department, given the black hair. How can I find out for sure? I don't have the money to hire an investigator.
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reader, bettyg +, writes (15 February 2011):
We as woman always have an instinct when something is just not right. I personally have a boyfriend (father of my child) been with him for 4yrs and he uses the computer a lot. I one day was going to use his computer and by his forgetfulness left a yahoo account name that was unfamiliar to me. You see, he and I share e-mail accounts and we only have 3. So, when I saw that e-mail I asked him who it belonged to. His whole facial expression change. I knew in my heart that he was lying. Even before the whole computer thing happened I had this feeling. But finding that different account just confirmed it. In the end he was having contact with a way older lady that he had met through craiglist and was debating to meet her or not. He didn't have any physical contact but its still cheating in my book. Now, I check my computer once in a while. How you can do that is open the computer history. Look for anything suspicious. Usually, if he is on it a lot it says the other person online name. If he is on his yahoo log on to it. You can go to yahoo chat and view his history. Any conversations he's had with any one would show you there. Just get your proof that you need to confirm and confront him. Just don't do anything crazy. Its not worth it. One more thing, wake up in the middle of the night and see what he is doing and spy on him a little.
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reader, bettyg +, writes (15 February 2011):
We as woman always have an instinct when something is just not right. I personally have a boyfriend (father of my child) been with him for 4yrs and he uses the computer a lot. I one day was going to use his computer and by his forgetfulness left a yahoo account name that was unfamiliar to me. You see, he and I share e-mail accounts and we only have 3. So, when I saw that e-mail I asked him who it belonged to. His whole facial expression change. I knew in my heart that he was lying. Even before the whole computer thing happened I had this feeling. But finding that different account just confirmed it. In the end he was having contact with a way older lady that he had met through craiglist and was debating to meet her or not. He didn't have any physical contact but its still cheating in my book. Now, I check my computer once in a while. How you can do that is open the computer history. Look for anything suspicious. Usually, if he is on it a lot it says the other person online name. If he is on his yahoo log on to it. You can go to yahoo chat and view his history. Any conversations he's had with any one would show you there. Just get your proof that you need to confirm andconfront him. Just don't do anythig crazy. Its not worth it. One more thing wake up in the middle of the night and see what he is doing and spy on him a little.
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reader, nononsense +, writes (15 February 2011):
Tell him you that lately you feel like he is cheating on you with the attractive black woman at the office. See what he does. You already know what is going on but are hoping you are wrong. The question is, what are you going to do if your hunch is right? So. Get ready. Are you going to pack his bags or yours, or are you going to work it out?
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